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Halle Berry and Boyfriend Split Up

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Halle Berry and boyfriend Gabriel Aubry are reportedly breaking up, "Extra" reports. They have a 2-year-old daughter, Nahla.

Halle Berry, Gabriel Aubry, daughter

Aubry initiated the split, reports, with a source saying that the age difference -- he's 34; she's 43 -- played a role.

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"Gabriel just felt it wasn't working anymore," the source tells Radaronline. "When they were first together, the 9-year age difference between them didn't faze him; she was the most beautiful woman he had ever dated and he was totally in love. But as time went on, he started feeling it more and more."

The two are said to be amicably working out the financial details and custody issues for their 2-year-old daughter. Halle Berry appeared last night (looking stunning, as usual) at the DKMS "Linked Against Leukemia" benefit at Cipriani in New York City.

Berry is twice-divorced; her first marriage (to former baseball player David Justice) ended in 1997 after five years, while her second marriage (to singer Eric Benet) ended in 2003 -- amid rumors of his infidelity.

When you have a child under 3, the pressures can be enormous. Why do so many relationships fall apart when the children are young? (Angela Kinsey, Kelly Rutherford, Britney Spears, Denise Richards -- the list goes on and on ....)

Rabbi Sherre Hirsch, author of "We Plan, God Laughs: 10 Steps to Finding Your Divine Path When Life Is Not Turning Out Like You Wanted," says that the divorce rate is definitely higher in couples with young kids, and that it's a common trend she sees in her community.

She believes couples get into trouble because:

  1. Young kids take time away from the man, who used to come first. Most of a woman's time is now given to the child.
  2. There is little time left for dating and sex.
  3. The average couple with young kids has sex one time a month. This dramatically affects the relationship.
  4. The man feels completely neglected and ends up leaving or "acting out" by having an affair. Says Hirsch, "Rarely do we see women leave. Most of the time, the men leave."
What can we do to protect our family and our relationship?

  1. The most important relationship in the family is the one with your mate. A great relationship means a great family. The best thing you can do is put your guy in the number-one spot.
  2. Keep the sex up.
  3. Do some communal activities with the family: volunteer, go to church or synagogue, do something for those in need. Families gain perspective this way.
  4. Spend an hour and a half each week together without the kids (take a walk, meet him at work for lunch, go for a bike ride). No kids. Period. You don't have to have a "date night;" just spend some quality time together.

Do you think having small kids increases your odds of breaking up?

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5 comments so far | Post a comment now
Summer April 30, 2010, 2:13 PM

Wait. The expert says most of the time men leave or cheat because suddenly they’re not #1 anymore. So women should make them be #1 to keep them. While she falls to the bottom of the pile? How about the men grow up, act like responsible adults, and stop expecting women to fall all over themselves to cater to their every whim. Let the kids be kids, and the men act like men. If they can’t do that, don’t let the door hit you on the way out!

Anon April 30, 2010, 3:58 PM

She probably just used him for a sperm donor.

bopeeplady April 30, 2010, 9:32 PM

Why are all the instructions for women? Are men not supposed to step up to the plate and help out with their offspring? Are we bears? Ms Berry seems to pick winners for partners, which is unfortunate for her - but if your mate can’t stick around when nobody’s getting enough sleep/exercise/sex/”me time”, then he doesn’t deserve to be a parent. His loss.

Danielle May 2, 2010, 6:41 AM

No one told me it’s hard having kids because it takes a toll on your relationship, meaning it gets harder before it gets better. If you can last until the kid is in grade school you can get through anything _^. It isn’t a forever thing…BUT in Hollywood they have more to worry about right? The paparazzi!!

mieoux May 15, 2010, 1:15 AM

Actually men feeling left out means that they are not participating enough in bringing up the child. If you were equally involved with your child you wouldn’t feel left out. The ones who are feeling left out are the ones who sit around sulking and doing nothing. Regarding the age difference, a lot of men marry women who are 9 years younger - and yet men age faster than women - obvious because they die younger than women. I guess women put up with the challenges of age difference but men are selfish they only stick around as long as things are easy for them.

Oh and she doesn’t need to use anyone for a sperm donor - sperm is dirt cheap, even the better sperm banks charge just 200 dollars and they screen for any psychiatric and genetic problems so it’s a much better deal than actually sleeping with a man just for sperm. If sperm is all you want you are better off buying it from the sperm bank, you don’t have to put up with the man who shot it out.

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