Aubry initiated the split, Radaronline.com reports, with a source saying that the age difference -- he's 34; she's 43 -- played a role.
"Gabriel just felt it wasn't working anymore," the source tells Radaronline. "When they were first together, the 9-year age difference between them didn't faze him; she was the most beautiful woman he had ever dated and he was totally in love. But as time went on, he started feeling it more and more."
The two are said to be amicably working out the financial details and custody issues for their 2-year-old daughter. Halle Berry appeared last night (looking stunning, as usual) at the DKMS "Linked Against Leukemia" benefit at Cipriani in New York City.
Berry is twice-divorced; her first marriage (to former baseball player David Justice) ended in 1997 after five years, while her second marriage (to singer Eric Benet) ended in 2003 -- amid rumors of his infidelity.
When you have a child under 3, the pressures can be enormous. Why do so many relationships fall apart when the children are young? (Angela Kinsey, Kelly Rutherford, Britney Spears, Denise Richards -- the list goes on and on ....)
Rabbi Sherre Hirsch, author of "We Plan, God Laughs: 10 Steps to Finding Your Divine Path When Life Is Not Turning Out Like You Wanted," says that the divorce rate is definitely higher in couples with young kids, and that it's a common trend she sees in her community.
She believes couples get into trouble because:
- Young kids take time away from the man, who used to come first. Most of a woman's time is now given to the child.
- There is little time left for dating and sex.
- The average couple with young kids has sex one time a month. This dramatically affects the relationship.
- The man feels completely neglected and ends up leaving or "acting out" by having an affair. Says Hirsch, "Rarely do we see women leave. Most of the time, the men leave."
- The most important relationship in the family is the one with your mate. A great relationship means a great family. The best thing you can do is put your guy in the number-one spot.
- Keep the sex up.
- Do some communal activities with the family: volunteer, go to church or synagogue, do something for those in need. Families gain perspective this way.
- Spend an hour and a half each week together without the kids (take a walk, meet him at work for lunch, go for a bike ride). No kids. Period. You don't have to have a "date night;" just spend some quality time together.
Do you think having small kids increases your odds of breaking up?