If so, how are you handling the news?
Single Mom Seeking: Every month, we hear from single parents who are going through major changes. Some of you are finalizing your divorce. Some of you are dating again for the first time in years.
And some of you are -- still -- dealing with intense feelings about your ex.
There's the divorced mother whose ex handed her back their wedding album recently, in front of their kids. (Say what?!) As it turns out, this was her ex's way of telling her that he was getting remarried -- although he didn't quite have the words to tell her the whole story.
There's also the remarried single mom who was caught off-guard by her own feelings: "Tonight, when my 5-year-old daughter said, 'Guess what? I'm going to have a stepmom!' all of those old feelings of abandonment -- ones I thought had faded away long ago -- came bubbling back to the surface," she says. "I think I was more astounded at having those feelings than I was at the news of his supposedly pending remarriage."
This is incredibly honest. Hearing about the remarriage of your ex -- even if you've found love again -- can stir up such strong feelings.
This leaves us wondering: Did you experience similar emotional pain when your ex remarried?
Did you cope with feelings of abandonment? Or suddenly feel lonely or insecure? Do these feelings eventually dissipate?
Or do these feelings stay with us as part of our life experience?
|Rachel Sarah, a.k.a. "Single Mom Seeking," blogs at SingleMomSeeking.com and cofounded SingleMommyHood.com, the first-ever website to offer "a whole new way to think about life."|