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Runaway Mom Left Husband and Toddler to Start a New Life

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Tiffany Tehan -- the married mother of a 1-year-old who was reported missing on Saturday -- was found safe last night in Miami Beach, Florida. She shockingly told police that she left with Tre B. Hutcherson to "start a new life."

Tiffany Tehan

After police officers requested she do so, Tehan called her parents and husband to assure them of her safety. "Just to know my little girl is safe is all I needed," Tehan's father, Chuck Tabor, said at a press conference today.

Tehan told police that she plans to return to Ohio to her husband and child, but didn't say when. No charges have been filed against Tehan or Hutcherson thus far.

When we found out that Tiffany Tehan had left voluntarily, it shocked us to the core. When a father leaves his kids for another woman, we don't bat an eye. But when a mother does it, it seems almost unfathomable. Maybe it's a double standard, but we just can't understand how a mother could leave her child under any circumstances.

We turned to psychologist Dr. Michelle Golland for some insight. "First of all, I would be questioning if there were issues of postpartum depression going on that would lead Tiffany to not be connected or bonded with her daughter," she says.

"If she had been unhappy in her marriage before, she might have thought that having a baby was going to make it all better, and then it didn't," Dr. Golland continues. "Because she's a pastor's daughter and very active in her church, it's possible that she felt divorce was not an option for her. Then she had an affair, which would have been even harder for her to reconcile, given her background. She may have thought it was better for her daughter to think she was missing or even dead than for her daughter to discover that her mom cheated and divorced her dad."

Dr. Golland says that Tiffany may have felt this was her only way out. "Tiffany may have wanted to save herself the shame of wanting a divorce -- and she wanted to spare her daughter from that shame, too," she says. "So she just decided to run away and make a clean break. This is how she may have justified it in her mind."

Why do you think Tiffany left her own daughter behind?

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33 comments so far | Post a comment now
sam April 22, 2010, 12:20 PM

Maybe she’s just an adulterous, selfish flake. We don’t have to ‘medicalize’ everything.

Black Iris April 22, 2010, 12:25 PM

I think she just sounds selfish. I think we should be shocked when any parent runs off with a paramour. You can get divorced and stay around your family!

Anonymous April 22, 2010, 12:35 PM

She looks like a meth addict

HeckNo April 22, 2010, 12:39 PM

I just read that she didnt want to be found and tried to hide from authorities. She wanted to disappear. I also read that she planned this escape for awhile. Uhhhhh………dont even want to know what I really think. Lets just say, Mr. Tehan should run and run as fast as he can to see a lawyer and divorce this woman. I cant even imagine he could ever trust her again.

tiffani  April 22, 2010, 12:48 PM

I would personally first look at the Christian influence in her life. (In my opinion), Until these churches are restored to respectable institutions, you can expect more irrational behavior, mental illness and even suicide from what would have been perfectly mothers. My second guess would be that she wasn’t given a chance to find herself. She was most likely discouraged from taking initiative in her life to become what she was truly meant to be. She was probably influenced to get married and have children as soon as possible- without proper education or even life experience… Maybe she (misguidedly) realized finding herSELF was more important than being an obedient mom and wife. Maybe an absent mom is better than a miserable one.

Mrs. Collins April 22, 2010, 1:06 PM

Sad to say, at least she left and didn’t kill her husband and baby to get away like the guy did in Missouri last year. Killed his wife and two young sons so he could start over with his mistress, down in Florida.

Mrs Mack April 22, 2010, 1:13 PM

She probably got tired of being married and didn’t know how to go about talking to her husband about it and she figure he would probably would try to take her child so she just left the child with him we dont know her situation so let’s not judge who are we to judge and for you to say she look like a meth head is wrong,she might have been scared of her husband.

WS Student April 22, 2010, 1:15 PM

I am not a regular of this site, but it absolutely shocks me to see both the content of these articles and the mentality of those leaving comments.
I am not a mother, or even a woman, but what is utterly insulting in this particular article is the level of conjecture by the author with absolutely no input from the mother in question (Tehan).
The question of why this woman left her family is immediately “diagnosed” by Dr. Golland. Why is it that when a man leaves his child and family “we don’t bat an eye” and yet when a woman does the same, it makes headlines and requires the expertise of a doctor?
Is it because she bucked the status quo of being, as tiffani so eloquently put it, “an obedient mom and wife”?
Abandoning one’s family is, to say the very least, difficult to understand, but we do our society a disservice when we marginalize and silence even those that offend us.
You have cast judgment on one unable to defend themselves.

vloupie April 22, 2010, 1:18 PM

This is less shocking than somebody who kills their baby like Casey Anthony.

Tm April 22, 2010, 1:22 PM

lol. Why is it always Florida everyone runs off too? I think that’s the real problem… can we somehow disappear that sweat pit of a state?

Mary April 22, 2010, 1:22 PM

This mother needs to stay in Miami and immerse herself in her “new life”. She doesn’t deserve to be a mother. Her hubby ought to DIVORCE HER ASAP and get custody of that child. Let the mother live happily ever after with the Mullet Man…they belong together.

Sam April 22, 2010, 1:38 PM

When a man leaves a wife and child he is just an ordinary scumbag, but when a woman leaves her husband and child there just have to be a psycological reason?
She wanted to leave but not hurt the daugthers feelings? Come on, she just wanted to mess around with a married man in Miami.. also the comment in the article “When a father leaves his kids for another woman, we don’t bat an eye. But when a mother does it, it seems almost unfathomable.” really pissed me off too.

Keagan April 22, 2010, 1:50 PM

Please actually check over your website. There are several ‘a”s left out. It makes it very difficult to understand.

juden April 22, 2010, 4:32 PM

WOW YOU PEOPLE! Maybe everything isn’t nice for her at home. Maybe her husband is controlling or abusive towards her. Maybe she feels scared or unsure about how her life has turned out. Maybe she’s just having a mental break down and needs to get out! Maybe she felt pressured to have a family but this isn’t really the life she wants! Seriously people, use your God Damn brains. We just don’t know what’s going on in her head.
(how is it that a teenager is more understanding than [I’m assuming] a bunch of middle aged women?)

Smith80 April 22, 2010, 4:57 PM

You know all those times when someone snaps and hurts someone and people say “Why didn’t they just walk away” or “Why didn’t they seek help”? Maybe that is what she was doing. Who are we to judge? Human nature is a funny thing and it’s easy to say nasty things about others. Im thankful everyone involved is alive.

Sam Mendes April 22, 2010, 5:33 PM

Wow, Juden. You thought enough to yell back, but didn’t bother to leave all the extraneous capitalization and misspellings behind. When ADULTS talk, we try to keep things clinical. When children, like yourself, talk, you tend to ASSUME a lot, and capitalize things like God and Damn. Listen. You’re here like everyone else. For conjecture. If you don’t want conjecture (look that word up, sweetie) GO ELSEWHERE.

Tash April 22, 2010, 6:07 PM

Wow, Sam Mendes. When you’re talking about “extraneous capitalization” try not to contradict yourself by condemning their use of capitals to emphasize a point (God Damn) and then go on to do the same thing three times in your post. Also, when attacking the grammar of others, try not to use incomplete sentences like “For conjecture.”
Who says adults try to keep things clinical? The adults who wrote this article certainly didn’t keep things clinical. It is interesting that the article mentioned the double standard for parents leaving children but instead of trying to debunk it or question its validity it went on to reinforce the sexism on which it is grounded.

Lanie April 22, 2010, 6:10 PM

Um…Sam. Juden didn’t misspell anything in her post. Extraneous capitalization yes, misspellings no.

Getting back on topic though; it’s true. We’re all just here trying to figure this out. Which you both pointed out, albeit in different ways.

jacqueline April 22, 2010, 7:25 PM

we do not know what circumstances she had been. Unfortunately I had seen people being abused emotionally to the point that they can’t go on. She might be tired of doing things alone all these time. I had been in a marriage while I am running around doing everything and my husband had his feet up watching TV. I wanted to run away alone, but I was smarter i kicked him out and kept the kids.

an outraged wife and mother. April 22, 2010, 9:10 PM

what a piece of work this woman is first to walk away from her daughter for a man don’t she realize men will come and go but your children are yours forver, God gave her a beautiful daughter and she was so selfish and self centered to walk away from that precious child. thank God the little girl has a good father, but on the news this evening he said everyone makes mistakes and deserves a second chance wake up Mr. she walked out on you and your daughter without a second thought divorce her cheating self and move on with your life. and shame on her for putting her parents through this doesn’t she know a missing child is a parents worst nightmare i say lock her up for awhile and let her think about what she has done to her family and the community well the nation…..

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