momlogic's Vivian: Former "Extra" host Dayna Devon just turned the big 4-0 -- and feels better than ever. During our heart-to-heart, this ebullient mom of two (5-year-old girl; 3-year-old boy) shares her parenthood juggling strategies, her look-good secrets and tells us what it's really like being married to a Hollywood plastic surgeon.
momlogic: How was your Mother's Day? Did you have a good one?
Dayna Devon: I was actually in Minnesota working, so I wasn't with my kids. But we're going to celebrate this weekend. Remember when you were little and you made those little things for your mom in school? I got a lot of them! It was really one of those moments for me, because I remember doing those for my mom. And I remember her saying that she'd rather have these more than anything in the world, and even back then I was like (doubtfully), "Sure!" Now I really do understand; I really would rather have those things than anything in the world.
ML: How do you juggle being a mom and working?
DD: As soon as we get an invite to a kid's birthday party or something, I immediately -- right then, right there -- put it in my phone and set a reminder for the day before. I find that there are energy units, and if I take care of things right away instead of letting them bounce around in the back of my head, I can clear things off my plate. When I buy birthday gifts -- lately I've been buying gift cards for Target -- I'll buy twenty at a time. I always, always try and multitask. And I usually don't quote celebrities, but I was doing this piece when I was pregnant and people started giving me advice. Nicole Kidman told me, "Err on the side of love." I thought that was such a great way to say it. As parents, we're all going to make mistakes and wish we could do something differently. But how many times are you going to say, "I'm so mad I hugged him?" And I try and have a lot of humor about parenting. It's a messy process. You've just got to do what you do and try and make your kids laugh. I want them to enjoy the ride, too. Maybe it's part of being an older parent. I just try and laugh at it when it all gets weird!
ML: You just turned 40 a few months ago. Was that weird? I myself thought 39 was worse ....
DD: The most desirable women on the red carpet -- Courteney Cox, Jennifer Aniston -- are now all over 40! I really think our idea of what beauty is has changed, and people are holding on to the idea of a hot woman for a lot longer. It didn't bother me as much as I thought it was going to. Check with me when I'm 50, but I wouldn't go back to my 20s if someone paid me!
ML: I'm sure, being in entertainment, that there's a lot of pressure to maintain your looks. Do you feel that pressure?
DD: Absolutely! Without question. I really think turning 40 is so much different now than when my mother turned 40. She wasn't thrilled about it, but there are so many more options today. Look, if you don't want to do anything about aging, that's cool. I get it. But there are so many options and choices available to women that we didn't used to have, and I think that's empowering. You don't have to feel put out to pasture at 40 anymore!
ML: I'm sure being married to a plastic surgeon (Dr. Brent Moelleken) demystified a lot of these options, so when you felt compelled, you were more comfortable.
DD: It's funny: So many women say they'd kill to be married to a plastic surgeon. But it backfires a little bit, because -- not to be corny, but he fell in love with me. You know when you love a puppy because one of its ears is turned down? When I point out things that bug me, he loves those things. When my husband and I were first going out, I asked what he'd do to my face, and of course he gave me the obligatory, "Nothing! You're very pretty!" But after I pressed him, he said he'd probably put a little JUVEDERM in. I really think when you age, you lose volume in the face, and I had those deep nasal labial folds around my mouth. So he did it, and it was really amazing! I didn't want to look different; I wanted to look like me. It was so smooth, and no one could tell I did it -- which was ironic, because I felt like shouting it from the rooftops. People were so surprised about how open I was about it. During junkets and red carpets, even celebrities would pull me aside and ask what I was doing. Since we women are taking care of our bodies so much better these days, our bodies tend to look better than our faces when we age.
ML: I read that you had a tummy tuck, also?
DD: Yeah, I did do that after I had my babies. But otherwise, I've mainly done fillers. The injectables are the future. How many thousands of products have I tried? Whether it's skin creams, diets, peels ... in my experience, virtually nothing delivers what it promises. This really, really works.
ML: Ooh ... I'm totally tempted to do it! I have those lines from when I used to smoke. Does it hurt?
DD: They just came up with JUVEDERM XC, and it has lidocaine in it, so it doesn't hurt. The old stuff, I'm going to be honest with you, hurt -- but it lasts a year. Now it's like 70 percent better. It's not as painful as it used to be at all.
ML: Good to know! Thanks!
momlogic note: Through her alliance with Allergen, Dayna will share personal tips on how to maintain your best appearance every month -- whether it be through health, exercise or a few "tweaks" -- if you become a fan of the official JUVEDERM Facebook fan page. (Hey -- if your interest in "tweaks" is piqued, it might be worth a look-see!)