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Everyone Needs Time Off

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Kate Meyers: I have learned many things -- good and bad -- from my divorce.

Everyone needs time off

One of the more practical bits of knowledge I've taken to heart is this: Everyone needs a day off.

Because I co-parent with my ex, we split the weekends. I have the girls on Saturday, while he takes over on Sunday. Even at the beginning, when I secretly cried every time they left, I loved my Sundays. I would spend hours leisurely reading the New York Times and drinking coffee. I would go to my yoga class. I would shave my legs. I could have an uninterrupted long-distance conversation with my girlfriend in Boston. By four o'clock, I was a new person. And it didn't even take a whole day.

Of course, the sad part of co-parenting is that, by Sunday evening (when I desperately want my girls back), they are with their dad. The good news is that I can take this knowledge to my next marriage -- if there is one -- and work with my partner so that each of us gets a long block of alone time at least once a week. 

All humans need space from each other. Especially partners. We also need time away from our responsible roles, both occupational and domestic. Think of it as a personal sabbath in which you step away (for even bigger fun, ditch the cell phone) and renew in whatever way you need -- a round of golf, a pedicure, a nap, a long stretch with a favorite author. Who wouldn't come back a nicer person, a better partner and a more patient parent?

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Kristen May 24, 2010, 6:04 AM

You know this applies to work as well and most of the american population makes so little money in their crappy jobs on top of NO paid vacation time, I think this is a travesty. We need reform in this country, not only for stay at home moms but also for every working american. Everyone deserves a break!!

Black Iris May 24, 2010, 9:38 AM

This is one of those lessons we married people could take from divorced people - split up the child care sometimes and have time to yourself.

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