Kimberly Seals Allers: Maybe it was wrong of me to expect -- after seven years of marriage, two children and a no-drama-from-me divorce -- that the "wasband" could have at least sent a "Thanks for keeping my kids alive, b****" text message on Mother's Day. Or given the kids $20 toward their own Mother's Day efforts ....
After all, Mother's Day is about acknowledging and recognizing all the hard work mothers do. And while we expect mothering to be a thankless job when it comes to our children, we do expect grown-ass men to recognize it.
Well, I expected that.
Given the skimpy or nonexistent child support, the inconsistent visitation and my continued efforts to make sure he stays involved in our children's lives, I think a small thank-you would have been in order. I can't help but feel that, all across the nation yesterday, even babydaddies and one-night-stand dads took a millisecond to send a text message or pick up some gas-station flowers in a weak Mother's Day effort. Not my wasband.
He seems oblivious to the fact that his children are clean and well-dressed though he doesn't pay a dime. That his son started reading at age 4 because I work with him every night, and that his daughter is a straight-A student in dance and sign-language classes. These things must have happened because of the parenting fairy.
I always dreamed, even through the divorce, of a positive co-parenting relationship. So far, it remains a dream.