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Some parents of the 8- and 9-year-olds whose dance routine ignited a firestorm of controversy on YouTube speak out today on "Good Morning America."

Cory Miller and Melissa Presch say this video was taken out of context and wasn't meant to be seen by millions of viewers. They also say the routine was inspired by Alvin and the Chipmunks, NOT Beyonce.

They claim the skimpy costumes are common in the competitive dance community.


What do you think of their explanation? Are YOU buying it?


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jen May 14, 2010, 9:25 AM

I’m buying it! Even in ballet and dance class they have outfits and fake hair. It’s not surprising and who are you to judge someone else’s decision about there child doing dance.

OUTRAGED!!! May 14, 2010, 9:48 AM

I don’t care if it is the “norm” or not. That just goes to show you we have lost our morals in this country. If it is the “norm” to dress our babies up like this we should be ashamed of ourselves! These are children for heavens sakes! It’s pretty pathetic that anyone would think this is the “norm” and it is a shame these parents were not embarrassed that there kids were acting like grown women. One more question…how was this taken out of context? Sexual moves are just that…Sexual moves! BTW Jen, it’s not about judging someone it’s about expressing how you feel about something. That is what a blog is for. I don’t agree with the choices these parents made in letting their little girls dance like this and dress like this. I hope that the contraversy opens the eyes of some of these parents and opens the eyes of other parent’s out there. This is a child molester’s dream. Who needs child porn when the parents are displaying them? This is sick and outrageous! My husband whom is a tattoo artist and a very liberal parent would have hit the roof if he went to his daughter’s competition and saw her dance like this! He would have been on the stage in a heartbeat yanking her right off the stage. There is no way a father or mother for that matter should allow someone to look at their little girl doing those things.

Black Iris May 14, 2010, 9:53 AM

The parents are idiots. If you don’t want millions of people to see it, don’t put it on YouTube!!! And if you dance like that at a public dance competition, you can’t expect that people won’t see it!
Anyhow, the dance competitions shouldn’t be teaching kids to dance like that. The kids don’t understand what bumping and grinding is about, grown-ups have to set the limits. Let them hear the song and dance like little kids!!!
This lady is so insane - the costumes are designed for movement????? She is in so much denial of what she’s doing to her daughter.

Black Iris May 14, 2010, 9:55 AM

I can’t believe the mom referred to bumping and grinding as “highly technical dance moves.” Sure, if your goal is to teach your kids to pole dance.

Sara May 14, 2010, 10:05 AM

My daughter does competitive dance and that’s not the norm and is not what’s needed to win if you choose the right competitions. Most good competitions would penalize a team that danced or dressed like that because it’s not age appropriate. You can do technical dance moves without being slutty and you can dress dancers in outfits that don’t look like underwear and win.

Rita May 14, 2010, 10:15 AM

Ok guys this is how it is. I’m a dancer and I can tell these girls have enormous talent. I said before, black tights should have been worn under the dance shorts and a nude colored fabric should have been used around the tummy.

The outfits are NOT lingerie, those are dance costumes used only in dance recitals and competitions. Dancers are not allowed to wear them out of their dance studios or the recital house. They will wear them only a handful of times.

If they keep with dancing classes, they won’t have time to do anything but dance. They surely won’t be sleeping around or doing anything just because they did a dance.

I’ve seen more skimpy swimsuits for little girls at Wal-Mart and have had to search high and low for a 1-piece for my daughter to wear.

And one last thing: America is NOT sexualizing little children. It is you people with your sick minds who are seeing this video as sexy.

Theresa May 14, 2010, 11:28 AM

Jen,

It is perfectly acceptable to judge someones decisions and behaviors. Our society would be in very sad shape if we felt we couln’t judge someone, judging is a life skill, you need to judge the people you want to be friends with, the poeple you want your kids to be friends with and what is accepted behavior. Without the ability to make judgements, a person is paralized from making decisions.

We need to teach our daughters different, in order to do so, we must teach ourselves different, this dance with these outfits are simply inappropriate, you can showcase your talent without going to these extremes, now maybe I’m too old, but I recall being in dance and ballet and cheer as a little girl, (1980’s) the message to me was one of impowerment through dedication, practice and discipline, we never danced this way until highschool which is when I and several of my other team mates resigned from school dance squads as we felt that we were not objects to be oogled at, We need to teach girls to find appreciation in their unique talents, talents that come from within, not mere beauty.

Michelle May 14, 2010, 1:15 PM

Th only thing I see wrong with the whole picture is the unfortunate costume choice. The black/red combo is a little racy. If the costumes were pink and silver, probably would not have been as big of a deal. I also didn’t see “bump and grind”ing… Lotsa people overreacting here.

Anon May 14, 2010, 1:34 PM

nothing sexy about some flat chested little girls

AmeAqua May 14, 2010, 1:36 PM

Take away the arm coverings and thigh highs and all you are left with is a bedazzled little girls bikini. I saw nothing wrong with the actual clothes, just the accessories. As for the dance moves. They could have chosen different moves and been just as technical. The part of it making it’s way to YouTube, that was just poor judgement all around. The person that posted it should have gotten permission from all the girls parents before posting. JMO.

Anonymous May 14, 2010, 2:12 PM

Inspired by Alvin and the Chipmunks? Sure!…..
just goes to show who should have a vasectomy and who shouldn’t. Really, come on people, think! If other parents started letting their kids jump off bridges too because it became ‘norm’ would you?

Chrissy May 14, 2010, 2:28 PM

If they were inspired by Alvin and the Chipmunks, how come their “costumes” don’t reflect that?
Just because they weren’t excepted to been seen by millions, doesn’t make it any less right.
If the parents didn’t want millions to watch it, then maybe they knew there was somethinbg wrong with the routine to begin with. But probablely too hung up on winning to not allow it.

Lisa R. May 14, 2010, 3:09 PM

This was a dance competition, in front of parents, not in a nightclub or on a TV competition show. I agree with Michelle: if the costumes had been pink & silver no one would think they were too sexy. The dance moves may have been sexy, but those girls were not trying to be sexy; they were dancing. It may have been in poor taste on the choreographer’s part, but it is not kiddie porn. And look at the obviously disapproving way it was reported. That will cloud your judgement when you watch it also. AmeAqua, I agree, whoever posted it online should have had the permission of all the girls’ parents. I wouldn’t post a picture of my daughter’s friends w/o their parents’ OK. But people are making this into something it’s not. Now those girls will feel like they did something wrong, and they just danced the dance they learned.

Jennifer May 14, 2010, 3:54 PM

This is what I love about America. I am free to allow my child to do activities that she or he enjoys and all other parents are free to do the same. In fact my child has done pageants in the past and loves them. If she was talented enough to dance like these girls, I would allow her to do it in a heartbeat. We as adults are making these dance moves and hobbies such as dance and pageants into a bad thing.

You can call me out, you can say what a bad parent I am but you know what? At the end of the day when it is time for bed, I know where my child is. I also know that because I do not put such a stigma on activities like dancing, singing, and pageants (which btw folks have been around forever), my daughter will feel comfortable talking to me when she is older.

Will your daughter be able to talk to you about anything, or will she feel that nasty sting of your judgmental attitudes?

HeeHee May 14, 2010, 4:57 PM

As long as everything is covered up, who cares?.

Paula May 14, 2010, 5:27 PM

Rita, you are a moron. And apparently aren’t a parent. ANd if you are a parent, then you’d better OPEN UP YOUR EYES and understand that this is a horrible world we live in, and that bad things happen to children. And that there ARE child predators who love intances such as this video! No, it is NOT “WE” who DISAGREE with this video who are sexualizing this/have dirty minds. Those of us in here disagreeing are parents of children who would rather DIE than have anything bad happen to their kids…and would NEVER place them into a situation like this. EVER. PERIOD! So, wake up and get some COMMON SENSE into your brain!

Z May 14, 2010, 5:42 PM

I don’t see a problem with it. They wore outfits appropriate for the song, and danced appropriately for the song. It’s not like they were ripping their clothes off onstage…Most bathing suits cover less than the costumes do. I suppose all the parents whining about this make their kids go to the swimming pool or beach fully clothed.
They’re just kids being kids, and having fun. When I was their age I would sing and dance to songs much more suggestive than that, and I turned out just fine.

Renae May 14, 2010, 5:49 PM

To everyone who justified this as the “norm,” there are many many wrongs in our society, just because something is normal to someone does not make it OK.

Rita May 14, 2010, 6:55 PM

Paula, I beg to differ. First of all, there is no need to call names. That just shows your immaturity and closed mind. I’m a 30 year old married mom of 2 and I understand wanting to keep your kids safe but I also know I can’t shield them from life. I won’t ban what they read or see because they’ll see it one day on their own anyways. I’d rather have family discussions (which we often do) and teach them how to handle different situations. They know they can come talk to me about anything they want to and I won’t judge them. I’m not and never will be one of those “helicopter” moms.

All I really said was the costumes need to have more fabric and the girls need to continue with their classes because they are phenomenal and have a great dance career in front of them. Not all little girls who dance will grow up to be strippers or porn stars. They will grow up to probably be choreographers and instructors, which is how ALL choreographers and instructors started out, as little girls in dance. True, they probably didn’t do the same dancing as in this video, but they’re successful now so who cares?

Bad things have ALWAYS happened to children, since the beginning of time. Haven’t you ever read the Bible? We can teach our children to be wary and cautious and how to handle situations the right way, or we can lock them in their room because we’re scared they might be raped and killed, runover by a car on their way home from school, whatever. Your choice.

Dancing is NOT evil. When will people realize that?

isabelle May 15, 2010, 5:57 AM

I think it is sad that people even try to justify this as being cool or fine. Just a reflection of the sad state of morals in today’s society… And people wonder about sex in middle school. Well, do you really think it is that shocking if 8 and 9 year old sexy dancing is just par with being a chid. Please!


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