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Preschooler Breastfeeds Her Doll in a Restaurant!

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Momlogic's Momstrosity: It's a tried and true "hot button" issue: Breastfeeding in public. Every few months, a mom is chastised by authorities or bystanders for nursing her child on a bus, or at a sporting event, or, most recently, in a restaurant (the latter was called out by none other than reality-show star Kim Kardashian).

I subscribe to the theory that a woman should be able to nurse anywhere, anytime. It's a woman's right ... and, I believe, a preschooler's right. One night when we were out to dinner, my 4-year-old daughter casually announced that she had to "milk her baby" -- and proceeded  to pull down her princess dress so her doll could "latch on." (Remarkably, my daughter simultaneously drank her juice. I must say, I was impressed by her ability to multitask!)

It certainly did get us some attention. A couple of diners giggled (some a bit uncomfortably), but a few gave me the stinkeye. What was I supposed to do?! Suggest to my faux-lactating preschooler that she hide herself with a nursing cover (or "blanket of shame," as one friend jokingly calls them)? Do they even make them in size 4T?


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Katie June 30, 2010, 11:06 AM

When my daughter was born, my son had just turned 4. He was very curious about breastfeeding. One evening he went and got one of his stuffed animals and propped it on the Boppy — then he told me he was going to feed it some juice. Since you know only mommies make milk, so boys must make juice!

MJ June 30, 2010, 2:31 PM

kb, i don’t think anyone here is trying to say people don’t have the right to feel how they do, i think some people are curious as to why people feel the way they do, it helps to understand the opposing view.

anonymous June 30, 2010, 7:55 PM

breastfeeding is moving the woman’s rights forward? do any of you have jobs? I have a career and can’t imagine given my independence to sit around breastfeeding. I didn’t breastfeed. My kids have no food allergies, they are hardly ever sick, and my 3rd grader can does 6th grade math. So I guess bottles weren’t detrimental.

MJ July 1, 2010, 4:22 AM

people who think that women who stay at home and breastfeed are moving women’s rights backwards are themselves doing it, everyone has a choice, this mentality just shows all the flaws in the old feminist views, a true feminist knows that a mom can stay at home or go to work and both are fine decisions, just like i know some stay at home dads, someone should be home with the kids, doesn’t matter which one, and a career has nothing to do with it, many of my friends work and pump, but hey, that is just them, they were not going to be fooled by the formula companies into thinking they couldn’t do both.
i was bottle fed, and i am also healthy, that is not the point.
also, anonymous, not every country has crappy maternity leave, that seems to be something that is unique to the states, here moms get a year off, so of course they can have a career and breastfeed their babies.
you sound like another defensive bottle feeder, no one here attacked formula feeding moms saying their babies would get sick, etc etc, although they do as a whole, you just happened to be lucky.
the article is not a debate on formula and breast milk, it is a debate on whether we should teach our girls that they have to cover while breastfeeding.
i think your idea of feminism is a bit out dated, i have had a career and now am a stay at home mom, i can tell you that the latter is much harder and more important on a personal level, but again, that is just me.

you give up your independence when you have a baby period, bfing or ffing, unless you are sticking your kid with a baby sitter all the time to go out, and even at that many women just pump and go out all the time, it is a big misconception that you lose your freedom when you breastfeed.

MJ July 1, 2010, 4:34 AM

one more thing in regards to feminism, the fact that a man can walk around topless and a woman cannot,it is blatant in our face sexism, we don’t have equal rights in regards to that, and it is silly that a lot of women do not realize it, it is one of those situations where we have to suffer because of other people’s hang ups and dirty minds, it is wrong, and i am happy to say that a few canadian cities are realizing that and changing the laws.
that is what this thread is really about.
women have been raised to be ”modest” and men can go around showing off their useless breasts because they don’t have to be.
now that, is a feminist issue.

anonymous July 1, 2010, 6:02 PM

perhaps I am a defensive bottle feeder but why would anyone post pictures of their daughter breastfeeding a doll if they were not needing of attention themselves? It is only another way in which self-righteous breastfeeders have to “shove it in our faces.” And if my 18 year old daughter considers breastfeeding I will tell her to get an abortion first. July 2, 2010, 3:22 AM

This was cute and funny..I have an son, who’s the older sibling, his sister is 6 months old and he actually looks at me BF’ing and sighs like guess she’s not available to wrestle right now. But he also knows it’s ‘bfast, lunch, or dinner for her and I love that SOMEDAY when he marries and has children that he’ll support his wife in BF’ing and hopefully ONLY sigh away from her when he wants to ‘wrestle’….haha

MJ July 2, 2010, 5:47 AM

anon has just basically outed themselves as a troll, no one would really feel that way, rather theri grandchild be aborted than breastfed? no one is that dense.

Elizabeth July 2, 2010, 10:58 AM

I for one am sickened and applauded at the number of women advocating for a sexist, male-centric, gender role play agenda.


By insisting that women “MUST BE MODEST IN PUBLIC” you are essentially saying
- You think it is our duty to be passive to men just because they like breasts for sexual gratification
- Women are unequal from men.
- Women should yield to the male population’s wishes, needs, etc

Men should be taught not to stare and “oogle” women when they are breast feeding. Men can leave the room or put (metaphorical) blinders on if they feel uncomfortable. Everyone should educate themselves!!

Breastfeeding is natural! Because of the nature of the breast in our society and our deeply rooted sub-conscious, they is dually sexual and a-sexual. We need to accept that: just as I am able to be professional and sexual in different capacities, so too are my breasts.

If we traumatize our children during the most important time in their lives: imagination play, then we will create neurosis in them from a young age and cause significant damage to them later in life.

To tell them something is WRONG in one setting but okay in private doesn’t compute to them. They don’t understand sexuality or advanced social dynamics yet and should not be expected to and punished for not “performing” as such!

And all you people worried about “shielding children from pedo’s” are crazy. Pedos are real and are out there but the best possible way to protect your child from being a victim is to teach them to be STRONG and to live with conviction! Not to be scared all the time and ashamed of their bodies and its natural functions!


Kim Price July 3, 2010, 8:31 AM

I love this! My son is 9 and said he will not marry a woman that will not breastfeed his children! I asked him why and he told me some benefits of bf. I grabbed him and squeezed him sooo tight! He’s my chocolate drop. Kids are so smart!

Diana July 6, 2010, 2:21 AM

Breast feeding organizations should make her there poster child….adorable.but I understand what the fuss is about. Some people are raised prudelly others on thinking of crimes involving sex offenders worry that it may give them an excuse to commit crime. We live in a complicated world.Now if we were in africa or another country no one would bat an eye
as they do not see the breast as a sexual organ they see it as a means to nurture and feed a baby and solely for that.Now being a mom of 4 I can state before having chldren my fiance viewed my breasts as a sexual organ but now does not (and they still look the same).Maybe if american society was not so sex crazed and exposed to so much sexual content this would not even be a debate(in women breastfeeding in public).I believe women should be allowed to breast feed in public and think this story is adorable.

Pauline July 6, 2010, 4:56 PM

Ugh. Dang kids. >:O

Pam July 7, 2010, 5:12 AM

I think breast feeding is awful. To me it looks like a cow out in a field. I know women who do this, or did this. I was about 4or 5 when I saw a lady @ church do this in sunday school class. I had never seen this before. Mom explained what was going on. She was unable to BF. It really upset me. We were raised to be VERY modest. This means you don’t show your privet parts. My sister BF. She covered up completely. If you have to do this disgusting thing. Cover up. Do it where NO ONE can see you. If a child of mine did what this child did. No more dolls. UGH. Shows she has no & will have no modesty. That’s what’s wrong w/young children now. NO MORALS. NO MODESTY.

Pam July 7, 2010, 5:17 AM

This is disgusting. I have never nor would I ever BF. My sister did. She was covered up. It reminds me of an animal out in a field. We were taught modesty. Morals. That’s what’s wrong w/young people today. They think you can just show whatever in public. If you have to do this. Do it out of sight of people. COVER UP. No one wants to see your privets. Mom was unable to BF. She said she wanted to, & was disappointed that she couldn’t. NOT ME. UGH!!!!!!!!

MJ July 7, 2010, 7:51 AM

pam, i feel sorry for you, you have serious issues.

what the hell do you think breasts are there for? your husband? how sad that you have been brainwashed.

Kelly July 7, 2010, 4:34 PM

I am a mother of 4 children, 2 boys, 2 girls and I breastfed all of them. They all pretended to nurse their baby dolls, toys, etc. Children learn what they live, too cute. Those mommies who are uncomfortable with it are just showing their own insecurities. It’s peferctly normal and healthy. Grown ups blow things out of proportion. :)

Pam July 8, 2010, 3:35 AM

MJ I do not have issues.Women @ church BF. We have a nursey where they can go. Let it all hang out so to speak. They are still covered up. What I’m saying is COVER UP. I was taught Your Body Is A Temple. Treat it as such. This means you DO NOT show your privet parts in public.Or if you have company @ home. I personally do not think it is right for me to be sitting @ a restaurant,trying to have a nice dinner, & relax w/my husband. There sits a lady. Undoes her top, & wham.I DO NOT want to see this. Still reminds me oa animal out in a field.My daughter BF. She always laughed @ me. She covered up though. My entire family laughs @ me.My Dr. even laughs @ me. Tells me You are the most modest person I have ever met.
As for women walking around topless in public. Most women’s sag. Who wants to see that. If you want to see that go to CA. They walk around half nude anyway. Look @ Pam Anderson. I’m not a prude. I just think you should respect yourself, & others. My choice is not to do this, & not to have to see this. I will not change on this. DISGUSTING!!!!!!!if I see you doing this. I probably will ask you to cover up. If you won’t. I probably will ask the manager to do something about it. You know there are laws about indecent exposure. To me this is indecent exposure. BE MODEST.

MJ July 8, 2010, 4:19 AM

you just said you would never breastfeed two posts ago, and now you say you breastfed your daughter, i think you are just trying to start a fight, you are making no sense ad contradicting yourself.

oh, and by the way, the law says breastfeeding uncovered is not indecent exposure.

MJ July 8, 2010, 4:34 AM

oh wait, i get it, your daughter breastfed her kid, wow, your posts are hard to understand, lol

btw it is illegal for a manager to as a woman to cover up.
you should really read up about the laws, before you start arguing with people who know them.
i am a strong women, you can see it in my eyes, if you saw me breastfeeding in public, i doubt you would have the guts to tell me to cover up, and if you did, i would make you very sorry about it, lol. i don’t take crap from fundamentalist , right winged conservatives ;)

MJ July 8, 2010, 4:41 AM

also, to be clear, i don’t think you have issues because you want women to cover up, i think you have issues because you think breastfeeding, covered or not, is disgusting, that is not normal thinking, that is weird and twisted.
you have a dirty mind.

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