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Is It EVER OK to Bash Your Ex In Front of the Kids?

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The NY Post calls Long Island mom Lauren Lippe "the ex-wife from hell."

She was sentenced to six weekends in jail for trying to drive a wedge between her ex-husband, Ted Rubin, and their daughters, keeping them apart for weeks at a time and even claiming that Rubin groped one of them, reports the Post. Lippe is appealing the sentence.

Lippe called Ted Rubin a "deadbeat," "loser," "scumbag" and "f - - - ing a-hole" in front of their kids. "We all hope you die from cancer," she once said to him -- with both daughters in her arms. (Lippe and Rubin have been divorced for seven years; their daughters are now 13 and 15 -- and Rubin says they hate him.)

In 2008, Lippe even accused Rubin of fondling the breasts of one of his daughters, but later admitted that she knew nothing sexual had occurred. (Wow -- that's just sick.)

Obviously, this woman crossed the line in a major way ... but is it EVER OK to bash your ex in front of your kids? Single moms, what do you think?

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Veronica June 9, 2010, 1:43 PM

I am happily married myself, but I am a product of divorced parents who constantly bashed each other. As far as I’m concerned this woman should be responsible for her actions. Not only is she bashing her husband and brainwashing her children, she is denying her children a father and teaching them that it is OK to talk about others this way. I try not to talk bad about anyone in front of my kids. Kids are smart and will form their own opinions. If the father is a “scum-bag” they will figure it out and she (the mother) should be there to pick up his slack. Shame on her.

Pamala June 9, 2010, 2:27 PM

Parents have to remember that bashing each other makes the children feel like they’re being bashed too. Cause remember they love that parent as well and probably don’t see the issues that the adults see.

Frankly if you’re going to have kids you’re going to have to grow up and be mature and not bash your ex.

My dad was/is a deadbeat drunk/druggie and not once did my mom speak ill of him. And he did a lot of bad things. As we got older we realized his issues, but it wasn’t because our mom told us.

mdmomof2 June 9, 2010, 2:33 PM

There is something seriously wrong with that woman. It is never okay to bad mouth your children parent to the child. And it is never okay to completely try and cut the other parent out of the children lives. I think CPS should look into her because she is surely abusing her children by acting this way. What a horrible excuse for a mother. Her kids may be young now and agree with her but once they are adults, they will blame her for keeping their dad away from them. I hope they end up hating her just as she has caused them to hate him.

anonymous June 9, 2010, 2:47 PM

But what if the guy really is a jerk? What if the kids hate him for what he did, not for what she said about him?

Jilly June 9, 2010, 4:08 PM

I would say that you should never do this….I do believe that kids generally figure it out on their own. However, before people rant about what a piece of work she is…what exactly is her gripe with him? You never know, he may have done something so deplorable that he deserves it!

Carol June 9, 2010, 7:40 PM

If a parent goes off on anothe parent and it happence once, kids get that parents are imperfect and make mistakes.
If bashing your ex consistently, as it sounds like this woman did, its not okay.
Never okay.

Carol June 9, 2010, 7:41 PM

If a parent goes off on anothe parent and it happence once, kids get that parents are imperfect and make mistakes.
If bashing your ex consistently, as it sounds like this woman did, its not okay.
Never okay.

concerned party June 10, 2010, 5:13 AM

Ted Rubin had the girls 166 extra days this year alone.

He refused to pay for braces, calling them a luxury. Refused to pay for a sclerosis brace for Dani, wouldn’t help pay for bat Mitzvah lessons, camp or therapy. The girls know this because he told them these things are luxuries. Ted wants the relationship with no financial responsibility; he presently is behind $60,000.00, in his payments to Lippe. He was asked to split these expenses but refused. He is very controlling not understanding teenage girls. Ask him what he does for a living, you will get a vague response. He will call himself an executive, of what know one really knows.

In 1991 the SEC fined him a large sum, took away his licence for dealing with securities and other such things. All this because he was inflating and manipulating stocks with his own securities company called First Fidelity Capitol Corporation. He scammed friends, widows and others out of there savings just like Bernie Madoff.

If you think Ted Rubin is a victim, he is only a victim of his own making. When he has the kids he often

ignores them leaving them at home alone to fend for themselves. This doesn’t make the girls feel all warm

and fuzzy towards their dad. Someday the girls will tell their story.

There are many sides to every story!

Robert Michaels June 12, 2010, 7:12 AM

166 days…….. Huh? Today is only day 162 of this year…. Does he have custody? If not, perhaps he should.

You seem to have intimate knowledge of the case, but your facts are in question. You’ve probably been listening to the lies spewed by the ex-wife from hell.

Nowhere in the SEC records is there a record of financial penalty being levied against Mr. Rubin. And if Mr. Rubin was $60,000 in debt to Mrs. Lippe, wouldn’t there be a court case regarding it? From the look of the decision, it actually seems that it is she who owes him money…..and about twice that amount. Oh and since you brought up the scoliosis issue, I see that there is a Dr. Lippe listed in the area who is an orthopedist. Any relation? If he thought that his wife’s daughter needed a brace, don’t you think that she would have been in one?

Yes, there are two sides to every story. But simply parroting one of those sides is no replacement for actually digging into the story and reporting the truth.

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