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Just a Guy Who Likes Separate Vacations

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Bruce Sallan: I admit it: I like going away without my wife sometimes. And I suspect she feels the same. She occasionally wants to visit her parents (who live out of town) without having to worry about me.

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Let's face it: We sometimes like separate time and even separate vacations. I ended up being alone over Christmas for ten days, and while I missed my family, I loved answering to no one. And as for my wife, I know she needs that separate time, too. It's regenerative; it's easier; it's fun. That's the truth. That's the dirty little secret. 

Even when we go out to eat, there are those times when I'd just like to be able to choose the restaurant without a negotiation. Since we're both foodies of sorts, we each have very specific likes -- at any given moment.

So of course, the same would apply to vacations. The thing we love equally is skiing, so those vacations are easy. But with more traditional travel -- to foreign countries, for instance -- we have different interests. My wife likes to go to different faraway places for most vacations, while I am happy to return to favorite, comfortable drive-to places repeatedly. She likes to wing it and explore, while I like to have a set itinerary. Thankfully, the times we do go on those "big" vacations, she makes all the arrangements and I just complain about them after the fact. 

But what do you expect? I'm just a guy.

Do you and your spouse ever take separate vacations?

Bruce Sallan gave up his showbiz career a decade ago to raise his two boys, now 13 and 16, full-time. His internationally syndicated column, A DAD'S POINT-OF-VIEW, is his take on the challenges of parenthood and male/female issues, both as a single dad and, now, as a newly remarried dad in a blended family. Join Bruce's A DAD'S POINT-OF-VIEW page at Facebook and follow him on Twitter. To contact Bruce, visit his new website, And listen to his new Radio Show on KZSB AM1290. For more information go to the "Radio Show" tab on his website.

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5 comments so far | Post a comment now
Denise June 13, 2010, 8:30 AM

I think “girl’s weekends” and “boy’s weekends” are usually healthy. I just don’t trust “my boy!”

Jeff June 13, 2010, 9:21 AM

My wife and I often take short separate vacations and we believe it’s very healthy as she enjoys the “spa thing” with her girlfriends while I enjoy a gambling weekend in Vegas. You can call us traditional in our interests, but it works for us and I agree with your thinking Bruce.

Black Iris June 13, 2010, 12:43 PM

We don’t take enough vacations for me to want one by myself! :-) Maybe if we had lots of vacations, I’d want to travel on my own, but right now I’d just like one without the young’uns.

Sara June 29, 2010, 5:01 PM

Bruce, as far as I’m concerned, my husband and I travel apart far too much. If we have time for a vacation, I want him with me.

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