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A Conversation with 'Orgasmic Birth' Mom!

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momlogic's Vivian:Hear about that mom in that movie a while back who had an "orgasmic" birth? TLC is airing episodes of "Strange Sex," a six-part series about ... well, SEX. Among those profiled is a really nice woman named Cathy from Houston, a mom of two under 2 who claims she had such an "orgasmic" birth the first time around, she tried to go for it again with her second kid! We had ourselves a powwow to try and wrap our minds around where we went wrong with our own birth plans!

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momlogic: Did you orgasm during the birth of one or both of your kids?

Cathy: I guess technically just the one, but I wanted to mention that the births were ecstatic, and beautiful and wonderful in the filming. Both births were those things, but I think really it was because these things can come out of a natural birth. Delivering the placenta really was a release of the tension the first time around. The second time around, my labor was fast and furious, so it was over and done before I knew what was happening. But the first time, there was music playing and a lot of lead-up. I wasn't expecting delivering the placenta to feel as good as it did.

ml: How do you define "orgasmic?"

C: Ecstatic release. Beautiful.

ml: Your natural births -- how did you deal with the pain of labor?

C: There was a lot of prayer around me, so that got me through. The first time around, I started chanting "baby" over and over again to remind myself I'd have a baby at the end of this, and that helped, too.

ml: Do you think you might have reached that ecstatic place through meditation, or was it the actual birth?

C: I think it was the actual birth that led to it. I tried to prepare with music and not think about the pain. I thought more along the lines of having a baby in the end.

ml: It's tough for women to associate the pleasure of orgasm with the excruciating pain of labor and birth. What would you say to skeptics?

C: Don't be fearful. I think women are raised to think of birth as a painful thing when it's a natural thing that's been going on since the beginning of time. Women have been brainwashed into thinking it's the most horrible thing that's ever going to happen to them. It IS painful. The thing is that, for me, the pain went away as soon as the baby was born and I didn't remember the pain at all. My first labor went on for 15 days -- I kept going in and out of the hospital with pre-labor. It made me tired, but at the same time it prepared me really well and I was able to dance and do all the pre-birth stuff that would help me get through.

ml: Think you were high off the pain?

C: Yeah -- exactly! There's something called a "hormonal cocktail," which I think is a really lovely term that's basically how your hormones work together without drugs.

ml: Maybe it was more of an adrenaline shot than orgasm, like how people can pick up cars in fear, combined with the ecstatic feeling of seeing your baby?

C: It could be. Every hormone is all working together in the body at those moments. The very release ... when I saw that movie about orgasmic birth, I could relate to the feeling during that last push.

ml: Do you think orgasmic birth is something women should aspire to?

C: Maybe they shouldn't aspire to having an actual orgasm, but I think aspiring to try to have a natural birth and let their bodies do what the body's going to do, because that's where it comes from -- letting the body release. You get all sorts of feelings from that, and if an orgasm comes from it, that's cool. But that's not really the goal. The goal is the baby. For me, it was having a natural birth both times. It really is an amazing experience that's hard to describe. But if it doesn't happen, know that it's OK -- it's what was planned for you.


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Anonymous July 25, 2010, 6:43 AM

Not to downplay her experience or anything but I had an epidural with the first and two subsequent emergency c-sections and guess what… they were all amazing experiences. Giving birth is amazing (painful or not) despite how it’s done. One way is not necessarily better than the other, only different.

Cathy July 25, 2010, 2:23 PM

I don’t think you downplayed my experience at all. One thing I did not mention, and I am sorry, is that one can have an amazing beautiful birth in hospital, with drugs, or a C-section (this is, after all not the end of the world); “healthy mom, healthy baby” is the most important thing. Natural birth is definitely, for me, something I wanted and I am glad I was blessed with. But I remember a story during my preparation that was just amazing. A woman was in a terrible car accident. She had spent months preparing for a natural birth, but had to have an emergency C-section as she and the baby were in danger after the accident. She asked the doctors to dim the lights and play classical music during her surgery. They did this for her, and she and the baby not only lived through it, they had an amazing birth; even the doctors said they were moved by the ambiance. I think this is a gorgeous example of God’s will be done. When we not just accept our fate, but embrace it, something beautiful can come from it. -Blessings, Cathy

Cathy July 25, 2010, 2:24 PM

I don’t think you downplayed my experience at all. One thing I did not mention, and I am sorry, is that one can have an amazing beautiful birth in hospital, with drugs, or a C-section (this is, after all not the end of the world); “healthy mom, healthy baby” is the most important thing. Natural birth is definitely, for me, something I wanted and I am glad I was blessed with. But I remember a story during my preparation that was just amazing. A woman was in a terrible car accident. She had spent months preparing for a natural birth, but had to have an emergency C-section as she and the baby were in danger after the accident. She asked the doctors to dim the lights and play classical music during her surgery. They did this for her, and she and the baby not only lived through it, they had an amazing birth; even the doctors said they were moved by the ambiance. I think this is a gorgeous example of God’s will be done. When we not just accept our fate, but embrace it, something beautiful can come from it. -Blessings, Cathy

Cathy July 25, 2010, 2:25 PM

I don’t think you downplayed my experience at all. One thing I did not mention, and I am sorry, is that one can have an amazing beautiful birth in hospital, with drugs, or a C-section (this is, after all not the end of the world); “healthy mom, healthy baby” is the most important thing. Natural birth is definitely, for me, something I wanted and I am glad I was blessed with. But I remember a story during my preparation that was just amazing. A woman was in a terrible car accident. She had spent months preparing for a natural birth, but had to have an emergency C-section as she and the baby were in danger after the accident. She asked the doctors to dim the lights and play classical music during her surgery. They did this for her, and she and the baby not only lived through it, they had an amazing birth; even the doctors said they were moved by the ambiance. I think this is a gorgeous example of God’s will be done. When we not just accept our fate, but embrace it, something beautiful can come from it. -Blessings, Cathy

Debra July 25, 2010, 7:47 PM

As Director of the documentary Orgasmic Birth: The best-kept secret as well as co-author of the new book, Orgasmic Birth; Your Guide to a Safe, Satisfying and Pleasurable Birth Experience, I have to thank Cathy for sharing her birth experiences and honoring that birth can be pleasurable, sacred, blissful in many ways and in any setting.

I hope that we can expand our vocabulary about birth and in so doing provide more options for women to have more positive birth experiences.

Join our discussion http://www.facebook.com/obirth

Bianca  July 25, 2010, 8:03 PM

I equate my natural birth experiences with getting a “runner’s high”. I was energized by giving birth naturally and felt invincible! Having had a crash C-section with my second child (after having a textbook natural delivery with my first), it was devastating, depressing, and downright traumatic for both the baby and myself. Being able to have a natural VBAC with my third, (with no drugs) was another amazing experience. I urge all women to embrace the joy, pleasure, energy, and vitality in giving birth naturally. It is an amazing, unforgettable experience that you can’t have with drugs, being tied down, or worse yet, being unconscious.

Pamela July 26, 2010, 8:16 PM

I gave birth to 3 children, and each was a completely different experience. My first was a planned C-section, the second was induced vaginal birth with an epidural, and the third was a completely natural vaginal birth within minutes of arriving to the hospital. I would have to agree with Cathy that I felt an extreme sense of well-being after the natural birth that I did not feel with the first two. It wasn’t quite orgasmic, but i believe it was a rush of natural endorphins from the pain of childbirth. It was quite wonderful.

Kate July 26, 2010, 9:21 PM

I felt the same way (the “runner’s high” as someone said) after having my daughter but after talking it over with others I thought I was a nut (and so did they). hahaha I ended up giving birth naturally as a fluke-I had such excrutiating back pain (and spastic muscles) I was ineligible for an epidural. Glad to hear from others who had similar experiences.

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