Stepbomb: So one minute the ex wants to sit next to me at a school event, and the next minute she's causing a scene at her daughter's soccer game. (So much for my theory that she wants the other moms to think we all play nice in the sandbox.)
The "scene" happened at my younger stepdaughter's soccer game. When we all arrived, my older stepdaughter and I walked over to say hi to some friends I'd made through my volunteer work at the school. My stepdaughter was also very giddy because the boy she had a crush on (who happened to be the son of one of my friends) was playing in the adjacent field.
Suddenly I hear, "X, come over here and sit by me -- now." My stepdaughter and I both turned our heads toward the ex, whose eyes were bugging out of her head. She. Was. Pissed. If looks could kill, well ... I'd be dead a couple times over. I instantly knew my "mistake": I had no right to be hanging out with my stepdaughter in front of those moms, because (gasp!) they might actually see that we have a good relationship.
I didn't talk to my stepdaughter for the rest of the game, and neither did my husband -- despite the fact that it was his birthday.
When it was over, I walked over to my stepdaughter and was starting to give her a hug when I heard the voice again. This time, it was sternly telling me that she and her daughter were leaving -- now. And then the ex grabbed her daughter's hand and pulled her away before we could even say goodbye. (It was her night with the girls.)
I didn't miss the stares from passersby. But I wish I'd missed my husband's face as he watched his daughter leave with the ex. And I thought, "It's becoming harder and harder to understand how the ex can be that insecure."
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