Divorce Detox: One of the most common questions we ask ourselves during the transition of divorce is also one of the most profound existential questions: "Who am I?" At the beginning of life, this question is hypothetical in nature, and over the course of our lifespan, we collect information and evidence (consciously and unconsciously) to support that hypothesis. While asking the question "Who am I?" on a regular basis is highly beneficial for many reasons, most people go through life without contemplating or reevaluating who they are within the context of their lives -- and this is especially true in marriage.
Using the divorce transition as an opportunity for self-discovery will lead to a more positive attitude during this challenging time, and it will ensure that you move into your next relationship with complete authenticity.
Here are some questions to spark your renewed interest in yourself:
What do you like to do for fun?
What are some of your positive qualities?
Why do you feel people are drawn to you?
How would you describe yourself?
What is important to you?
What brings you joy and happiness?
What are your talents?
Your sense of identity during and after your divorce will shape and inform your experience of the world and how you will move on with your life. While this process can feel daunting, it can also be fun and exciting. Give yourself permission to get to know yourself and to become your own best friend, and over time, you will wonder why you waited so long.
|Andra Brosh, Ph.D., and Allison Pescosolido, MA, are the leading divorce-recovery experts in Los Angeles. Founders of "Divorce Detox," a proven program guaranteed to speed recovery through the divorce transition, Andra and Allison are certified grief-recovery experts, and both hold advanced degrees in the field of psychology. Visit www.divorcedetox.com to learn more about their programs and cutting-edge work.|