RIDICULOUS to even try and blame ANYONE but the mothers! NO ONE FORCED THEM TO HAVE CHILDREN! And if she was poor and jobless, why on earth was she breeding? It’s not the relatives responsibility to raise that mother’s kids. I’ve had to deal with that situation in my family - a sister who pops out kids and expects grandmom, aunties and uncles to all “pitch” in - um, I’ve got my own kids and life to deal with. You want kids, you raise ‘em. You’re on food stamps? Well then you certainly should be having kids because you can’t afford them. I’m so tired of this non-accountable, lazy, self-entitled generation that wants to blame everyone and everything for their own wrong-doings!!

I have issues with this article. 29 is just not THAT young!! While I do wonder about the father(s)involvement, this woman did have other options than to brutally murder two little boys who in no way could fight her back!!! I sympathize with the fact that she was overwhelmed…..but c’mon, she is old enough to know and do better! She did not have to choose such a tragic end for those two little boys. They HAD no choice! Imagine their last moments……..simply horrifying.

Try NOT having sex! And I agree, there are options and programs. And fine, if she does not want to get off her butt and apply for the programs and do some legwork, give the kids up to the system. It may not be the best, but it certainly beats murder!

I agree with Crystal. The point was not to condone or overlook what this woman did, but to open up the eyes of society. I’m on welfare but I certainly don’t want to be. I’m out looking for a job every day, walking, with a baby in a stroller because help for daycare…oh there is none. Then it makes me scared for when I do get a job..where’s my daughter gonna go while I’m at work? The point of the article was to help you see what this woman is going through. Yeah she did something horrible, but where were her resources. Yes there are some but 98% of them cost money. Money we don’t have because the little bit of money we do have goes to diapers and wipes and other things for our kid(s). She’s trying to open up your eyes so you can see the big picture not just what’s in front of you, or only what you choose to see. But EVERYTHING.

I strongly agree with Jamie. She had many choices and choose to make the wrong ones. Where is the personal responsibility? These days it is everyone fault but the person who made the decision. Can’t pay my mortgage? Lenders fault that I didn’t know what I was signing up for. Can’t pay my credit card bill? Lenders fault for me not reading what I signed and agreed to. Decided to have sex and babies even though I couldn’t afford them. Society’s fault. Give me a break! There are evil people in this world and she is one of them.

Three things come to mind when I read this article: fear, selfishness, and perseverance. I went through a pretty rough time after my divorce from my child’s father so I can relate to the feelings of being overwhelmed. However, EVERYONE gets those feelings no matter if you are married, divorced, single, rich, poor, whatever. Its how we deal with those feelings that determine how we live our lives. I, like her, was very fearful of the future (how will I pay for daycare? how will I ever make it? will I ever find love again?) I, like her, experienced feelings of selfishness (if I didn’t have a kid I could be doing x,y,z…). But one major thing we don’t have in common is the fact that I chose to take that long, difficult walk through the tunnel of despair and I chose to keep going no matter what. I worked seven days a week, was on a tight budget, had to raise my son and take care of my car and house on my own, and on many occassions I cried and wished for my own life to end. Today, I am glad that I made that choice. Unfortunately, she did not. Society is not to blame for our own individual actions. There is ALWAYS hope. When a negative thought enters your mind and you’re going through tribulations, immediately change your thoughts. As evidenced here, one negative thought can lead to a disatrous ending.

Right on Angie!

I don’t believe that society can or should be held responsible when a parent decides to murder their child. The author of the article asks where all these different forms of assistance were when this mother needed them. I say they were there and ask my own question: why didn’t this mother seek out the various forms of assistance before she made this decision? Why should it be my responsibility to make sure that my neighbor doesn’t kill her children? Do I not have enough to worry about with raising my own children, and trying to provide for them? I live in the same economy this mother did, and I would never even briefly consider murdering my children as an option to solving my problems.

Society is only responsible for so much. There are countless things that we can and should be doing something about, but there’s also a certain point at which each individual has to take responsibility for their own life, their own choices, and cannot blame society when they make bad choices or act irresponsibly and then must face the consequences. It’s just like a child blaming their parents for what the child does: there comes a point where it is no longer the parent’s responsibility and is now the child’s.

The only way you can blame society is by blaming it on the fact that it is no longer unacceptable to have children outside of marriage and that it is okay for all of our young girls to get pregnant by all of these low life bums who were are no longer taught to stand up and do the right thing when he makes a girl pregnant. But as far as help is concerned, people like her w/no job, no husband, mulitple babies get more help than the rest of us. I’m tired of hearing about how some people qualify for so much help when most people who are struggle can’t qualify. People today are walking away from their homes, collecting umemployment for sometimes up to a year or more, getting food stamps, free lunches in school, free health care and those of us who continue to bust our butts but make “too much” don’t get anything. So, NO don’t blame me that this women couldn’t handle the life she made for herself!

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