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Jennifer Aniston Evokes Wrath of Turkey-Baster-Bashing Andrea Peyser

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Ronda Kaysen: A turkey baster is a bad substitute for love -- or so says Andrea Peyser of the New York Post. The perpetually cranky columnist is red-hot mad at Jennifer Aniston for suggesting that a single woman won't necessarily ruin her life if she chooses to have a baby solo.

Jennifer Aniston

Describing Aniston as "the world's most famous childless divorcee," Peyser appears to have been irked mainly by some comments Aniston made while promoting her latest film, "The Switch" -- a movie about a woman who becomes a single mom by choice.

"Women are realizing more and more that you don't have to settle," Aniston, 41, recently told reporters. "They don't have to fiddle with a man to have that child."

Peyser was mortified. "As if 'fiddling' with a man was vaguely unpleasant. Like bedbugs. Or flying coach," she rails.

No, I don't think that's exactly what Aniston meant. I think she meant that single women are realizing that just because they haven't found "Mr. Right" by the time their biological clock starts to go into overdrive, that doesn't mean they have to give up motherhood.

Aniston also said, "The point of the movie is, what is it that defines family? It isn't necessarily the traditional mother, father, two children and a dog named Spot. Love is love, and family is what is around you and who is in your immediate sphere. That is what I love about this movie. It is saying it is not the traditional sort of stereotype of what we have been taught as a society of what family is."

But that, too, is a horrible, despicable concept to consider, according to Peyser. "So, the nuclear family is a "stereotype," she writes. "And your beloved dog Spot has been replaced by whoever happens to be hanging around your immediate sphere. With that ringing endorsement, women everywhere reached for the baster. (Hey -- Calista Flockhart, Sheryl Crow, Jodie Foster and Murphy Brown did it. In heels!)"

Sheesh! Have a cocktail, Andrea. And what's with the turkey-baster obsession?

Peyser "backs up" her ridiculous argument with interviews with financially strapped and struggling single moms who lost a husband to death or divorce. Yes, it's difficult to be a single mom, especially if you didn't ask for that arrangement. But if someone can afford to raise a kid on her own -- and decides that's the best way for her to start a family -- what business is it of mine? Is motherhood really the domain only of women who are lucky enough to have found a partner before the magic age of 35?

Peyser seems most concerned with the idea of replacing men with inanimate objects. "Men may no longer be necessary, but they come in handy," she writes. "Put down that turkey baster." 

All I can say to that is: Andrea, get a life.

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10 comments so far | Post a comment now
chris August 27, 2010, 4:04 AM

If you totally can afford to have a child without a man, then you should but the truth is that most women can’t and it is the children who suffer for it. In today’s age, we as a society have decided that men aren’t needed as much any longer and I think that is sad. It is no longer unacceptable for girls/women to have babies everyday without a man in the picture and I just think that doing that shortchanges the child. I can see if you are in your 30’s or 40’s and finically secure but if you’re young with no money and hoping that the “baby daddy” will support you, then it is just wrong. I know nobody wants to admit but the “tradional family” is the best way to have a family. Fall in love, get married, start a family. Just my 2 cents.

Anonymous August 27, 2010, 6:06 AM

Yeah all those divorced women who wind up single anyway are totally agreeing with Andrea - whatever. In no way has Jennifer Anniston or “society” or anyone said men aren’t necessary. We are just realizing that the idea of what makes a “family” is different for everyone.

Anonymous August 27, 2010, 6:54 AM

I don’t think Andrea was talking about divorced or widow women. Family is made up in many different ways but regardless of the fact that progressive women think that a “Dad” is not necessary, they are! Just the other day, I saw on the news that people are trying to undo the law that lets sperm donors be anonymous b/c so many children want to know who their father is and connect with them. So that just shows me that even if women don’t think kids need a dad, most kids would disagree.

Anonymous August 27, 2010, 8:32 AM

Plenty of moms know who the dad is and the dad wants nothing to do with them. Kids need GOOD moms and dads - otherwise they are better off w/just one parent.

Anonymous August 27, 2010, 11:05 AM

Maybe more women should make better choices of who is going to be their babies dad. Last time I checked, there were many of different forms of birth control available. Not only that but women should insist that any man that they have sex with -who is not their husband and not in a committed relationship with- wear a condom! Geez, this is 2010, don’t women know by now how NOT to get pregnant?

Anonymous August 27, 2010, 11:33 AM

If a woman wants to have a baby without a man good for her. If she wants to have one with a man, good for her. WHY does anyone else care?

Anonymous August 27, 2010, 12:47 PM

Maybe her baby will care?

XXXX August 28, 2010, 9:04 AM

what do they do with the turkey baster?

Anonymous August 30, 2010, 6:36 AM

Hmm, I get the sense that a lot of women on here are unhappily married with children. The only time people get upset is when something strikes a nerve that you recognize in yourself. IF you believe you need a husband to have a child and that is the course YOU have followed then why on earth would you care what someone else does? Unless of course you are unhappy and jealous?

Thinks this is ridiculous September 9, 2010, 6:04 AM

There is nothing wrong with choosing to have a child on your own as long as you have the means (financial, friend/family support, etc.). Raising a child whose needs (not “wants” like the newest video game) are met is the BEST way to raise a child.

There are plenty of mother/father families that do not have the financial means to raise children. Yet they do and society accepts it because they are married. If it is unacceptable for a single woman to raise a child when she struggles financially then it should be equally as unacceptable when a married couple does it. How does having a father or male figure around make not having clothes or food on the table better? It doesn’t. Anyone who chooses to have a child should be prepared.

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