First off, her story about her magical home birth in the bathtub sans drugs sounded fantastic, except for the fact that most people need pain meds, don't look amazing right after birth and feel just as connected to their baby when they give birth in the hospital. (Call it the neurotic Jew in me, but I wanted to be in a hospital with lots of doctors around me in case anything went wrong.)Then she told the world that her 6-month-old son was potty-trained because diapers were bad for the universe (i.e., they're not "green"). I am pretty sure that is impossible. In fact, I know it is. Her baby wakes her up in the middle of the night when he has to pee, lets her know and makes it to a toilet?! Really?
And now Gisele says that breastfeeding should be made a law? While I agree that "breast is best," it doesn't work for everyone -- sometimes for many reasons. I think the most important job of all is to be a good mom for your baby. And if that means you don't have the capacity, energy, health, nipples or time to breastfeed, that's OK. We don't all make eight-figure salaries and have chefs, nannies, private jets and housekeepers.
I was dead set on breastfeeding. I took the classes, bought the bras, the pump, the ointment, the pillow and thought it was the only option. (Aww, the money wasted ....) Then I got sick, and after about two months had to give it up. I felt like a failure. I felt defeated, as though my daughter was missing out on what was best for her. I was convinced that we would never be quite as bonded as other mother-daughter duos -- that is, until a friend reminded me that my job was to be a good, healthy mom for my daughter, and nursing wasn't part of the equation for me. I was so embarrassed every time I pulled out formula that I felt the need to explain my whole medical history. People really could care less about my infections. They stared at me like I was lazy and poisoning my child.
Moms need not judge one another -- we all do the best we can. And while we would all like to look like models and have 6-month-old babies who use the potty, we can be super moms without being supermodels.