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Can an Affair Be a Good Thing?

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Balthazar Getty's wife, Rosetta, experienced major public humiliation when her actor husband was caught cheating on her with actress Sienna Miller back in 2008. (They were photographed having romantic lunches and makeout sessions all over Europe while Rosetta was at home taking care of the Getty's four children.) Well, now the Gettys have reunited -- and their bond is reportedly stronger than ever. Rosetta is even saying that she understands why Balthazar cheated! Can cheating actually help a relationship?

Balthazar Getty and Rosetta Getty

In the latest issue of Harper's Bazaar, the Gettys talk about the affair, their marriage and their family. "Here's the bottom line," says Balthazar, 35. "It was a very challenging time for everybody involved, but I loved and missed my family too much not to make it work. Rosetta is understanding enough and spiritual enough to let us try. In a way, it ... I don't know ... I feel like we're better than we've ever been."

Rosetta explains, "I'm open to talking about it because I believe we go through things in a public way to help other people get through it. I'd love to talk about it more with people when I'm clearer about it. I'm going to have to explain this to my daughters one day. I chose not to act from ego because I just felt like it would be too crushing for my children."

Though there is no excuse for anyone having an affair, when there are children involved, things get complicated. Do you think staying together for the kids is a good thing?


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Anonymous September 20, 2010, 1:18 PM

I don’t think an affair is ever good for a relationship, but some people manage to stay together and build a strong marriage afterwards. Anyone about to have an affair, though, should realize that most marriages fall apart or are damaged. You may not be lucky enough to be married to a saint who will truly forgive you.

MACHDOG September 20, 2010, 4:20 PM

WHEN YOU ARE MARRIED WITH CHILDREN IT IS A TOTALLY DIFFERENT DYNAMIC. I THINK TIGER’S WIFE
DID NOT CONSIDER THE CHILDREN WHEN SHE LEFT TIGER. SHE SAID THAT SHE TRIED TO GO BACK AND MAKE IT WORK BUT SHE WAS TO HUMILIATED AND COULD NOT FORGIVE HIM. WHAT ABOUT THE KIDS
LOVING THEIR DAD AND WANTING HIM TO BE IN THE HOUSE WITH THEM. YES! ROSETTA STAYED WITH
BALTHAZAR BECAUSE SHE LOVES HIM AND HER CHILDREN LOVE HIM! PLUS, HE LOVES ROSETTA AND HIS CHILDREN! WOMEN NEED TO THINK BEFORE THEY MOVE ON TO THE NEXT MAN WITH
THEIR HUSBANDS CHILDREN. WHAT MAKES THEM THINK THAT THE NEXT MAN IS DIFFERENT THAN
THEIR HUSBAND? WHEN YOU MARRY, YOU NEED TO
THINK ABOUT IT BEFORE YOU HAVE CHILDREN. BLESS ROSETTA, DO YOU THINK SHE WAS NOT HEARTBROKEN? I WAS HEARTBROKEN FOR BOTH OF THEM AND THEIR CHILDREN. WE NEED TO GET OFF
OUR HIGH HORSES AND REALIZE THAT FOR THE GRACE OF GOD THEIR GO I. IT COULD BE ANYONE
OF YOU MOMS OUT THERE THAT MAY BE NEXT.
SO STOP SAYING WHAT YOU WOULD DO IF YOUR
HUSBAND CHEATED ON YOU BECAUSE YOU DO NOT
KNOW WHAT YOU WOULD DO. I PERSONALLY HOPE YOU WOULD STAY AND LOOK AT THE BIGGER PICTURE. ROSETTA, BALTHAZAR AND THEIR CHILDREN ARE A VERY CLOSE AND LOVING FAMILY.
ALL YOU MOMS SHOULD TAKE NOTE OF ROSETTA’S
BEHAVIOR, YOU MIGHT LEARN WHAT REAL HUMILITY, COMPASSION, AND LOVE FOR YOUR ENTIRE FAMILY MEANS. WHEN THE GOING GETS TOUGH THE TOUGH GET GOING. THE TWO BIG F’S
ARE FORGIVENESS AND FAMILY. DO NOT PUT SO MUCH STORE IN FU####ING MEANINGLESS FLINGS.
ALWAYS THINK OF YOUR CHILDREN AND THEIR FEELINGS FIRST BECAUSE THEY CAN NOT MAKE THE DECISION TO STAY OR LEAVE. I ADMIRE YOU ALSO BALTHAZAR THANKS FOR RETURNING TO THE ROOST.

Carol September 21, 2010, 12:06 AM

Different situation. Tiger wasn’t ready/capable of being in a committed relationship. He flagrantly did not honor it.
Elin was right to leave. Their case is highly unusual becasue of the number of sex parnters Tiger had.

N September 21, 2010, 5:16 AM

Machdog - please go harass your baby mamas and get of this site, you make me ill

zahmom September 21, 2010, 5:43 AM

Machdog, please don’t use all caps when leaving a message. All caps implies that you are yelling and there is no reason for you to yell that much! And as far as women sticking it out for the sake of the children, I say that men should say faithful for the sake of their children then we women wouldn’t need to “take away” their children. Easy solution.

pastcheater September 22, 2010, 6:48 PM

I am a woman, married 20 years to my only boyfriend/husband. I had an affair that lasted 2 yrs. It was one of the best things I ever did, It was one of the worst. My husband does not know, and I stopped the affair almost 2 years ago. I have many wonderful memories, it was pasionate and romantic, and also increased my tattered self esteem, and dependance on my husband. It has also left me feeling guilty, and to be quite frank…longing… It was my choice, and the regrets are mine, but after reeling from so long from abuse, mostly emotional, (a counselor, who I saw, said I have been counseling 20 years and have only recommended divorce once in all those years, but after today It will be twice). I found that as I was less dependant on him for sense of worth, his value of me changed, I became valued and treated as I always had deserved. That holds true several years later. So would I recommend it? Nope..to risky..to those you love..to your psyche..to your convictions. The outcome has worked well for me….luck of the hand…I am not a gambler… and I could have just as easily lost and painfully and shamefully…

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