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PiscesIs It Sexist to Raise Kids To Be Ladies and Gentlemen?
Dr. Wendy Walsh: We all know about gender-neutral parenting -- the clever idea that girls should be given as many trucks and action figures as Barbies, and boys should be assigned to as many household chores as girls. That part all makes sense to me. But what about the old-fashioned idea of raising well-mannered ladies and gentlemen? Is that sexist?
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It’s not sexist at all t0 expect children to have proper manners. I remember when my son was 10 and he hit his little sister one day and I explained to him (once again) that boys should not hit girls and he responsed by saying “Well, I thought boys and girls were equal? If a girl hits me, I’m gonna hit her back!” I explained that even though boys and girls are equal, boy are naturally stronger than girls and when boys hit, they tend to hurt more. Well, my son is now a young man and I can tell you that he would never hit a girl. No matter how much what the two sexes to be considered the same, they are not. I expect my son to be respectful toward girls and I expect my daughter to be ladylike. I wish more parents would teach their children real manners again.
If it’s sexist so be it. It’s the way we are raising our four boys and when they grow up they will simply have to find a woman who appreciates being treated with common decency.
I will never understand why in the world people think it became the moniker of the feminist movement for men to be rude to women and women to have to behave like men. That’s not what it was about, it’s what it was twisted into by people who were anti feminist. Sexist is when parents teach their girls they can only raise children or stay in the home because they are women.
Being treated like a woman doesn’t equal oppression. Actually when it’s done right your views are considered on an equal level. Boys who are taught to be self centered and not consider anyone else usually tend to be that way in their marriages too.
This is what I consistently see from “feminists”, demanding equality except when inequality offers advantages, which invalidates their argument and reveals the truth: feminism isn’t about equality after all.
The reality is, equality is not realistic or desirable, lest men/boys treat women/girls as rough and with as little regard as they may treat other men/boys, and even feminists deep down know that.
No, it’s not sexist to teach boys to act like gentlemen and girls to act like ladies.
One of the reasons teen boys and men don’t respect girls, and women is because they never learned it in childhood.
Boys and girls are different not only physically but mentally and emoitionally.
It’s not that girls are not capable of opening a door, opening a jar, or pulling out a seat but rather it’s about teaching boys respect for girls.
This is where boys and girls are different emoitionally girls are naturally care more for others than boys (not to say there aren’t execeptions). Boys have to be taught respect for others and respect for girls because boys don’t naturally have respect for girls.