Momlogic's Vivian: About to relocate? Don't forget to mine the expertise you have right there in-house. According to a New York Times article, more and more children are taking an active role in the scoping out of new digs when their parents decide to move.
The article talks about how a high school freshman and her 9-year-old sister took such an active role in their mom's search for a city apartment, they were able to intelligently consider many aspects of each place -- from layout complications that would prevent kitchen chatter to privacy considerations when their brothers came to visit.
Their mom thought their involvement was important, not only because she valued their input, but because she thought it would ease their transition from the suburbs. To this end, she said of involving her kids, "If you're making a huge change like we did, the culture shock could be devastating."
A New York real estate agent recounted how 11- and 12-year-old sisters asked some seriously pertinent questions at an open house. Another mentioned how a European dad had brought his teenagers along to help calculate monthly expenses.
When asked whether including children in this kind of hefty decision making encourages or stresses them, Lisa Spiegel, co-director of the parent-counseling center Soho Parenting, said she thought "open housing" was a great way to teach teens about money, but cautioned parents against putting younger kids to the task. "Parents sometimes don't see the disservice they are doing to their families," she said. "It doesn't take into consideration the mind of a child."
Do you think asking your child's opinion when home shopping is a good idea, or a bad one? Have any of you ever asked your kids for advice when picking out a new place? And if you did, how did it go?