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Stepbomb and the Ex Go to Therapy!

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Stepbomb: I've always been a proponent of therapy. I believe in taking care of the mind just as you would your body. I've gone to individual therapy in the past, and my husband and I now see a therapist for "upkeep." But never in my wildest dreams did I imagine myself sitting in a therapist's office next to my husband and across from his ex-wife and her new husband.

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After all of the unnecessary drama, I asked my husband's ex-wife if the four of us could meet. And it was she who suggested seeing a therapist. My husband and I readily agreed -- maybe this was just what we needed to get on the same page, start fresh, start putting aside the anger and begin co-parenting peacefully (or as peacefully as possible). 

The session was productive. We didn't hash out the past; rather, we talked about what we wanted from the future. She acknowledged that she had repeatedly lashed out at us and agreed to start respectfully communicating with us. I apologized for not doing a better job of understanding the insecurities she must have felt when I volunteered in the classroom. We agreed to be open and honest and respectful. My husband and I left on a high, feeling hopeful. 

I wish I could say it worked. But two days later, we were scolded via voicemail for not getting out of the car to talk to her when we dropped off the kids. Never mind that it was raining and we were on our way to a doctor's appointment. Never mind that we'd asked her to always be respectful even if she was upset with one or both of us. Unfortunately, it was as if we'd never gone to therapy. 

I know you can't ask a zebra to change its stripes -- especially not overnight. But two days later?! I had thought we might make it at least a week. I wish my husband and I didn't have to constantly live in fear that we're going to get yelled at or scolded over e-mail. I wish she could do the one thing we'd asked: communicate with us respectfully. When she's upset, can't she just take a deep breath before reacting?

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Reyes Sadik January 23, 2011, 11:30 PM

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