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Back to School: There's Nothing Bittersweet about It

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Guest blogger Sabine: Today is a great day. The sun is shining, the birds are chirping and I am excited about the well-earned hours of me-time in my future. Today, thank you gawd, was the first day back to school after a very long summer. Over the last week, I've heard moms talking and posting on Facebook about how it's "bittersweet" to have their kids go back to school. Bittersweet? Who are these women? It's purely sweet in my book.

ecstatic woman

Our kids are the light of our lives, the reason we get up in the morning, true. But after having them home all day long for THREE MONTHS?! Please -- I don't care how much of a supermom you are, you're relieved to be sending them off to continue their education. I love my kids as much as the next person, but lemme tell ya: There's nothing sweeter than the empty, quiet house I am sitting in right now.

I can look forward to a day of no fighting or whining, no constant requests for playdates with kids whose moms I have nothing in common with, no going to places like Splash Mountain or Chuck E. Cheese (hell on earth). This summer, I have been the director of entertainment, the chauffeur, the fight mediator, the chef, the boo-boo fixer and the maid. I am now just me, queen of my own domain (at least for six hours of every weekday), and I am giddy! I'm ecstatic! I'm freeeeeeeeeee!

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Ana September 15, 2010, 5:41 AM

But after having them home all day long for THREE MONTHS?!

OMG how much lazier could a SAHM be? I mean this is probably the ost disgustingly lazy, gross item I’ve read. Having your kids home is you JOB - you understand that concept right? Probably not. What the heck are you doing all day while they are at school? Seriously, you’d NEVER make it if you had to have a real job where you needed to keep a schedule and go to work EVERY day, not just 3 whole months in a row.

I seriously cannot believe this rubbish is even posted!

Go Easy on Her September 15, 2010, 6:07 AM

Well, I don’t get that break, as I homeschool, but I still agree agree with you. I love my kids, I love my job, I’m far from a lazy SAHM, but give me a break! If I had 7 or so hours to myself each day, I’d be giddy, too. I’m lucky for 7 seconds of me time on an average day. I don’t judge you…no…I envy you! Enjoy your me time! :)

Leah September 15, 2010, 7:18 AM

at least for six hours of every weekday

Agree Ana!! WHO has 6 hours every day of just hanging out? How freaking lazy is that? I bet she’s first one talking about making “sacrifices” to be fake-SAHM - I say fake because I think real ones are probably doing something during the day. And NO ONE needs to stay home once the kids are in school - that’s just out and out lazy.

MiniVan Mom September 15, 2010, 8:09 AM

Seriously, you guys need to lighten up, it’s just a funny post about having some time to herself. Why do you feel the need to attack her? So sad how people behave when they can post anonymously.

Sabine, enjoy your time alone! I’m a working mom of two but I know that you have the hardest job in the world. =)

REALMOM September 15, 2010, 8:52 AM

I agree with Ana about her being lazy. But it’s not that serious. Some people have a low tolerance for dealing with children. That doesn’t mean that she’s a bad mom, it just means that she’s human. I am one of those supermoms who love to be with the kids all day everyday and doing fun things with them. I work full time and i cram being a wife, PTO president, golf lessons, track practice and trips to the museum and zoo into my life as well. Me time, who needs it; with the rush i get from pusing the limit and bending time like the Avatar bends air; i could care less. This is the greatest job in the whole entire world. Moms, the few the proud! lol lol

Rita September 15, 2010, 12:11 PM

LOL as soon as I read this article I thought to myself “Uh oh, some moms are going to go up in arms about this!”

Seriously, lighten up! It’s supposed to be funny. Sounds like some of you are jealous or bitter that you have to work and not have time to be at home all by yourself or with your kids all the time.

Sabine, I totally understand how you feel! I’m a SAHM and I do a lot all day, but it’s great to have that 7 hours to do more stuff around the house and pursue my own interests. I even sometimes go back to sleep for an hour or two after my daughter leaves for school. I still get things done.

I love spending time with my children but damn they can get frustrating sometimes! We’re human, it’s completely ok to be frustrated with your own children. No one is going to judge you or say you’re a bad mom, except maybe people like you who think if you have any outside interests of your own, you must be a bad mommy.

You know when you’re in an airplane and the flight attendant is telling you if the plane is crashing, to put your own oxygen mask on before you put your child’s mask on them? It’s the same way in life! Having your own time and interests helps you in parenting your children. If you completely focus on your children and don’t give any time for yourself, what’s going to happen when that plane crashes?

I’m far from being a supermom (even though my 3 year old calls me Supermommy all the time), but I know I’m a good mom.

And, Ana, how do you know if she’ll last in a F/T job? I’ve worked F/T while being a mommy (and pregnant) and yeah, it’s hard, but I did it. Maybe some people just can’t, but who are you to say she wouldn’t last? That’s so rude when you don’t even know her and are basing your analysis on a blog meant to be funny.

I know I’m lucky and blessed to have this chance to be a SAHM because I know a lot of families don’t have this option.

Please, get a life outside of your children. It’s ok, I promise. You might not be so bitter.

Sabine, let’s go get a drink sometime, k? :-)

Kristin September 15, 2010, 1:44 PM

She didn’t say she sits around eating bon bons all day. Who wouldn’t be glad to get some hours in to do something other than cater to kids all day? That’s all she’s saying. Man, you mommies get so touchy. And really brave when you can be anonymous.

Rita September 15, 2010, 3:26 PM

Oh and by the way, we SAHM’s don’t get ANY days off. We’re on call 24/7/365 which makes it that much harder. THAT’S why we value our alone time. Sorry if you working moms can’t understand that.

I’m not saying either side has it easier. But everyone is different and handles things their own way.

I value any time I get to myself in order to take a breath and do a few things just for me that has nothing to do with my children or family. I really don’t care if you think I’m selfish because making sure I have my own time makes me a better mom. I’d feel so caged if I didn’t have anything else to do besides be at my kids school all day.

I may be a mommy, but I’m still a woman and an individual.

Jamie RN September 16, 2010, 5:40 AM

Rita who says:
SAHM’s don’t get ANY days off. We’re on call 24/7/365.

Now imagine having a REAL job on top of that. Working moms are on call 24/7/365 AND they have to work! I was a SAHM when my kids were young and we operate on our own schedules. Staying home was by far the easiest time of my life. Most working moms don’t get sick time and if they do its used for sick kids. I was a SAHM - let’s be honest, what we do, while enriching if done correctly, is not challenging or nearly as difficult as working and mothering.

Once the kids are in school full time it’s time for mom to get a job - otherwise she is just lazy, period. And setting a horrible example to her children - especially daughters. Women are worth more and capable of more than just popping out babies or cleaning a house!

Rita September 16, 2010, 11:18 AM

Jamie, I have had a full-time job before while being a (pregnant) mommy. It was hard, but I did it with the help of my husband and family. What is this “real” job you’re implying? As far as I’m concerned, being a SAHM IS a real job. We just usually don’t get paid for it. As you said, you’ve been a SAHM before so you should be well aware it is a real job with its own pros and cons.

I’m not lazy, I don’t sit home and wait for my nanny and housekeeper to come do my job for me while I sit around and eat bonbons. (I wish! But I’d feel too guilty.) I fill my days with educating and playing with my children, as well as keeping up on the news and happenings locally and in the world so I can actually contribute to an adult conversation without talking about babies or motherhood. Not everyone wants to hear about that kind of stuff and I respect that.

I still have my 3-year old at home with me, so it’s not like I’m just doing the SAHM thing while both my children are in school. My 9 year old is in school and I’m home with my 3 year old. My husband and I together thought this option would be best, and like I said before, I know alot of families don’t have this option, I feel lucky and blessed we can do this.
I know plenty of SAHM’s whose children are all in school and they’re not lazy. They get out and do stuff, and it’s not shopping or lunching. Some of my best childhood memories are of coming home and my mom would be there waiting for me with a nice snack, and we’d do fun things after I did my homework. She chose to SAH because it was better for our family that way. She did go back to work eventually and recently retired.

I contribute to my community as well. I volunteer at my church and work in the church nursery during church hours. It’s great, I get to share Jesus with my family, my children get socialized and I get some extra money to usually do whatever I want with. It’s not much but it really helps. But I don’t blow it frivolously.

I do have an education, I plan on going back to work F/T next year when my little one starts Pre-K (sniff), but I’m enjoying this time right now.

I read somewhere once, if SAHM’s got paid, it would be well over 6 figures. Just a thought.

And who cares if a mother wants to SAH after her kids are in school? If the family can do it, more power to them!

XXXX September 18, 2010, 12:00 PM

Rita the only reason you can do all that crap is because your an SAHM. If you had a job you wouldn’t have the time!

Aunt B  September 18, 2010, 4:14 PM

I’m a single mom who has a love/hate relationship with back to school time. I love to hear the Tween-let chirping about what she’s going to wear and it’s still July and how much she loves school. On the other hand, I hate how fast the time goes… I posted here:

Rita September 20, 2010, 12:38 AM

XXX, first of all, use your real name. Does it make you feel all big and bad when you type behind anonymous names?

Second, I’ve worked F/T while being a mommy and STILL got everything done. It’s just easier being a SAHM because now I can stretch everything out.

Can’t we just accept all mommies work hard, no matter what they do?

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