Guest blogger Lenore Moritz: Some bits of accepted folk wisdom are quaint but, like cheap diapers, they don't really seem to hold water in the parenting context. Check it out:
"Where there's a will, there's a way." Teaching this to the kids -- especially young ones -- might set them up for disappointment. For instance, my kids use all their might (sometimes in the form of tantrums) to make a case about why they need more cookies ... yet despite their exerting this great will, I still say no.
"The early bird gets the worm." Oh yeah? Well, maybe the late birds get lobster after the early birds go to bed. I've got to stick up for the non-morning people, which is what I used to be pre-parenthood. By the way, since I now have no choice in the matter, will someone please send my kids a memo letting them know that "early" doesn't mean "predawn"?
"Old habits die hard." To that one, I would add, "Unless a bribe is involved." Case in point: When I was 5, I traded in sucking my thumb for a new bike. And on a similar note ...
"You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink" ... unless a threat is involved. Is this a familiar scene? Kid won't clean up messy room until you threaten to take something away (e.g., dessert or cell phone). Presto: clean room!
"Necessity is the mother of invention." Really? Let's consider whether our very existence depends on these kid-related items: 1) Bibs that say "I love fries." (Two words: childhood obesity.) 2) Children's sneakers that also have wheels (as if kids weren't fast enough already). 3) Kid-size Snuggies (actually, any Snuggies). Hmm ... seems like capitalism might be the mother of invention!