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Better Than Therapy: Mommy BFFs

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Guest blogger Michelle Kemper Brownlow: They are there at a moment's notice. I watch their kids, no questions asked. They know that they can be brutally honest with me and I will love them just the same. They are my support, my strength, my sisters, my sanity. They are my BFFs.

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My husband is my best friend on the planet, but there is something girlfriends can give you that even your husband can't.  

Two years ago, I found out that my number had come up and I would soon be receiving four tickets to "The View." I immediately texted my best friends and told them to set aside that day in March and make plans to travel to NYC for our visit with the ladies on "The View." We were so excited! 

Fast-forward to the nasty snowstorm bearing down on the East Coast the day we were supposed to leave. School was canceled. Roads were awful. But I have very adventurous friends, and they insisted on still going. Up until this point in our friendship, I thought they knew that I had "issues" with anxiety. They knew that little things freaked me out. They knew that changes in schedule could send me over the edge. So they should have expected my meltdown! But I don't think they did. 

After hours of pleading (them) and shrieking (me), they went to "The View" without me, at my request -- but were very verbal about their disappointment over my irrational behavior. This scenario could have been the end of our friendship. Out of embarrassment, I could have walked away. Out of frustration, they could have run the other direction. Instead, the instability I saw mirrored on their faces led me to the doctor's for a much-needed prescription for anti-anxiety meds. Yes, my friends still lovingly refer to me as "Freak" -- but they love me. They really love me! 

In our many years as friends, we have gone through great loss, shared in some of the happiest days of our lives, celebrated adoptions and births, mourned through divorce and death. We have shopped our asses off and spent way too much money. We have told many secrets and laughed until we peed. These women are better than therapy. I couldn't live without them!

No, I won't loan them out. They are mine. But if you don't have your own BFFs, you need to find some!

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Kim October 9, 2010, 9:10 AM

A group of great friends can save your sanity. Mine have gotten me through a deployment where my husband and I welcomed our fourth boy. My husband didn’t meet our son until he was 9 months old. But my friends were here any time there was anything going on. Birthdays, valentines day, thanksgiving, Christmas cookie decorating. They helped me make it a year to remember for my children.

Then they helped keep my marriage intact when I was truly ready to throw in the towel after he returned home not the person who left. If it weren’t for the understanding and caring of my friends I don’t think my family would be together right now. My husband and I both put in the very hard work but they were the ones listening to me vent my frustrations and telling me to hang in there just a bit longer because it’s worth it.

They are wonderful each in their own way but we all bring something so great to the table. A great group of friends is something everyone should be so lucky to have in their lives.

Carolyn (temysmom) October 9, 2010, 6:07 PM

There is just nothing like having a BFF who knows all about you and loves you anyway. I met my BFF when our kids were in preschool together and we’ve been through so much together. I love her children as if they were my own and vice versa. I know I can count on her more so than my own family. She’s my sister in every sense of the word.

teresa October 10, 2010, 6:57 PM

Not sure how anyone in this country survives without Zanax!! Everyday life is sooooo hard!!!

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