Divorce Detox: There's a Chinese proverb that says, "You can hardly make a friend in a year, but you can lose one in an hour." David Arquette did that last
week when he went on national radio and spoke about his separation from wife Courteney Cox.
One of the most shocking comments Arquette
made on Howard Stern
's popular morning radio show was admitting that he'd had an affair. Even more shocking was Arquette's comment that "The
reason for this separation is to better understand ourselves and the
qualities we need in a partner and for our marriage
. We remain best
friends and responsible parents to our daughter and we still love each
While celebrities are often forced into the limelight because their
lives are so public, airing dirty laundry is never a good idea. There
are no hard-and-fast rules about how to talk about a marital breakup,
but the lesson learned from David Arquette
applies to anyone who has
betrayed a lifelong partner: The pain and heartbreak experienced in the wake of an infidelity is
unbearable, so showing your injured ex the respect, compassion and
kindheartedness they deserve should be your number-one priority.
an affair hurts your spouse, no matter what. Talking about it in
public -- or on one of the most popular morning radio shows in the country -- is like
throwing salt on the wound. It stings your spouse as well as your
children, and can certainly tarnish your own reputation.
Andra Brosh, Ph.D., and Allison Pescosolido, MA, are the leading divorce-recovery experts in Los Angeles. Founders of "Divorce Detox," a proven program guaranteed to speed recovery through the divorce transition, Andra and Allison are certified grief-recovery experts, and both hold advanced degrees in the field of psychology. Visit www.divorcedetox.com to learn more about their programs and cutting-edge work.
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