The fabulous Mel B is no stranger to the spotlight. She has toured the world as a Spice Girl, performed on Broadway, hosts "Dance Your Ass Off" and has a new gig starring on her own reality show, "Mel B: It's a Scary World." The ebullient mom of two juggles kid duties and career -- just like the rest of us. How does she do it? Read on!
momlogic: You're a dancer, singer, reality star and host. What do you like doing best?
Mel B: Singing is my first passion. I am working on an album now, and it feels great to be back in the studio. I love singing, and if it were up to me, I would sing all day long. Doing my reality show has also been a lot of fun as well, but it really just boils down to having cameras follow my life. Singing, on the other hand, requires lots of practice, and you have to love it to succeed at it.
ml: What inspired you to do "Mel B: It's a Scary World?"
MB: For years, people have judged me and made comments without really knowing me. So I figured, what do I have to lose by opening up my life to the public? By doing my show, I am letting everyone judge for themselves by seeing the truth, rather than forming opinions based on all the gossip and rumors. I love my family, my husband and my career, and "Mel B: It's a Scary World" has been an amazing opportunity to celebrate all three.
ml: When you first became a mom, what was your biggest challenge? What's your biggest challenge as a mom these days?
MB: Being a good mom is always a juggling act. I love my family and work hard to make sure everyone gets the time and attention they need. My career is demanding and it can be a challenge to do everything, but somehow I make it work. When I first became a mom ... the terrible twos were the toughest, especially when your child decides to have a screaming fit in the supermarket. And for moms with daughters, I highly recommend the book "Side by Side," by Dr. Charles Sophy. Dr. Sophy is our family therapist. His book has great advice on how to forge strong mother-daughter relationships and highlights ways to better communicate.
ml: With all that you juggle, how do you manage to squeeze in "you" time?
MB: I make it a point to work out every day. Those 30 minutes while I am exercising is my time. I put on my iPod and listen to some music or catch up on some television shows. After I finish working out, I always feel more centered and de-stressed, ready to take on the world.
ml: How has your husband, Stephen, adjusted to the role of stepdad?
MB: Stephen is a great stepdad and has really stepped up to the plate, no pun intended. He loves Angel and Phoenix like they are his own. Angel sees him as Dad, while Phoenix thinks of him as her cool stepfather. And his own daughter, Giselle, is very much a part of our family. I also think family therapy has helped us all.
ml: What would you say if one of your daughters wanted to be in showbiz? Would you support it?
MB: Showbiz is great, but I would tell them to get an education first, pursuing their entertainment ambitions as a hobby while going to school. If you got it, go for it. Don't be afraid to dream big, but make sure that you have something to fall back on if the entertainment world isn't everything you thought it would be.
ml: What's the most important lesson you've learned in life that you'd like to impart to your kids?
MB: "Do as I say, not as I do" [laughs]. I guess I would say, "Dream big, but remember it takes hard work to make dreams come true."