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Moms: Girl Time is Crucial!

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Guest blogger Kate Meyers: My dear friend (also named Kate) and I were driving south on Highway 95 from her house in Massachusetts to her mother's house in Connecticut. I don't remember if there was an actual joke or if we had made some noteworthy observation about the male species, but whatever was said sent us into a bout of mad, laughter-to-tears hilarity. And suddenly, we were girls again. We had lost our identities as moms, wives (ex-wife, in my case), daughters and workers. We were the same unencumbered women who had met outside Mather Hall at Trinity College thirty-one years ago.

two women in a car
It was summer and I had spent five days visiting Kate and her family (husband Charlie and three boys) while my girls were away at camp. It was wonderful to be in her company, hang in her house and spend time with her children without worrying about my own. But it took the roadtrip for us to experience undiluted joy. We howled, we talked dirty, we cursed enough to headline for David Mamet. We said nasty/funny things without fear of judgment. Those hours of talk and laughter were our highlight reel. 

The epiphany for me was this: We all need to be girls again. We need to feel that freedom and revisit the person we once were, in order to better enjoy the person we now are. Moms need breaks from motherhood, wifehood and daughterhood. We need time in girlhood. All you need is another girl and some carved-out time away from work, commitment and responsibility. An afternoon outing, a fall-foliage drive, a weekend away -- it doesn't matter what you do, as long as you get a few hours to be girls. I promise, the rest will take care of itself.

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wifenmommy October 26, 2010, 5:27 AM

ohhhh how i wish i could get out if only for an hour

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