Guest blogger Lizzie: My son is shy. And when I say "shy," I mean the kid would be invisible if he could. He hides in closets and under beds, and he sleeps buried beneath his covers, like a mole. When new people come over, he refuses to come out. And when our friends come over that he's known for years (as in, since birth), he stands there like he's on hot coals until he's said his hellos and I let him leave. What is that?!
Also, he hates change. When he started first grade last year, it was torture for him because he'd have to -- gulp -- meet a new teacher and sit next to a new kid. The teacher couldn't understand it. "He's a smart kid," she'd say, "but his confidence really needs some work." He does have friends, but they're the same boys he's known since preschool. What are the chances he'll remain friends with these kids his whole life? At some point, he's going to have to let new people into his life!
I am perplexed by his behavior, but my husband says that he was just as weird when he was a kid. This does give me hope, as my husband is the most outgoing, friendly, social person I know. I was a little shy, too, as a kid. I remember hiding behind my mother when we had visitors, but I'd warm up and be sitting on their laps before long.
My son is now in the second grade, and it's a little better this year because his teacher is the same one he had in kindergarten (she switched grades). He knows her, so it's all good. But what about next year? What about middle school and his teen years? If he doesn't get over this shyness, he's going to miss some important opportunities in life, and that worries me -- especially since he's a warm, funny, affectionate boy with people he's comfortable with. Very few know his true personality.
Moms, have any of you dealt with an uber-shy kid like mine? What did you do to bring him out of his shell? Do I need to get my son counseling? Help!