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PiscesNannying: How Much Is Too Much?
Guest blogger Jessica Katz: Everybody needs a helping hand, but ... how much nannying is too much nannying?
The other day in baby group, a mom was telling us that her nanny had canceled so she decided to feed her baby in the bathtub (water and all). The idea? She could feed and bathe her daughter at the same time and avoid any mess. Her nanny usually does the feeding, bathing and bedtime routines. This mom hates doing that stuff.
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I call BS on this piece. I suspect these “moms” Jessica mentions are straw women — as in she made them up just so she can make her sanctimonious little point. I live in a very well off neighborhood in a very major city and I have never ever heard a mom admit to having that much full time help. Most wealthy stay at home moms I know have some paid help, but not nearly as much as Jessica claims they have. And even if they do, they certainly would never admit to it. It is culturally not acceptable.
LAME
Michelle, that may be your experience but that doesn’t make this blogger a liar.
Children aren’t accessories. If these women didn’t want to be mothers they shouldn’t have had children. They will deal with the repercussions of their decisions. Wait, no they wont society will. Their maladjusted children will go forth and take out their emotional instability on those around them. People need to grow up and get over themselves.
Honestly, if your a stay at home mom, I have NO idea why you need a nanny. (I am a SAHM by the way) I understand needing a break every now and again, but to have a nanny who comes EVERY day is non-sense. If you work, it’s another story, but I still think it is silly to have a nanny when you aren’t working.
I would have to agree with the mother of the blogger. Why have children at all if you aren’t going to raise them?
Sorry, my jaw is still on the floor. Words can not properly express how disappointed and horrified I am by this article. Not how the article was written, but the content. Just….wow.
Michelle: I was a nanny for 2 different families that were in a well off area in a very major city. Both moms were SAHM and yet I was there 12 hours a day 5 sometimes 6 days a week. I eventually quit because I realized I couldn’t enable behavior I didn’t agree with. Now I’m a SAHM with NO nanny.
I too was a nanny, and the mother of the child had a a complicated pregnancy at the time and wanted extra help. Even after the baby was born, though, she still “needed” help. In total, there were 3 nannies for the babies - two for the first child, and one for the second. The first child had both me and another nanny caring for him from 7am (sometimes earlier) to 8pm. So, Michelle, it is entirely plausible for a family to have help 12 hours a day.
I certainly don’t doubt the existence of the mother mentioned in this story. I am a nanny, and I once interviewed with a stay at home mom who was looking for a nanny to work 7-7, M-F. In her defense, she did have 3 children under 3, but based on the tasks that she expected her nanny to perform, she was a stay at home mom only in the respect that she had birthed children and did not have a job. All of the childcare and housekeeping was left to the nanny. Moms like that might be rare, but they are all too real.
I was wondering if you ever considered changing the layout of your blog? Its very well written; I love what youve got to say. But maybe you could a little more in the way of content so people could connect with it better. Youve got an awful lot of text for only having one or two images. Maybe you could space it out better?
Interesting article, thank you. Could you explain the second paragraph in more detail?
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I teach preschool and I have a two year old student who sees his mom an hour a day if he is lucky. The mom has no control with him when she is with him. She is a lawyer in a major firm. I know how they work. You are nothing unless you are billing 24 hours a day. I know her job is important to her and all consuming. Most people don’t know why she had him she spends so little time with him and wants the Nanny to everything. She even had the nanny buy his close. She is all about work and does not understand child development at all
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Do these women who have hired help 12 hours a day work for pay? Not that I advocate having someone else raise your children 12 hours a day under any circumstance, but it’s particularly heinous if they are not working at all. Why have the kids in the first place???