Guest blogger Angela Chee: My second child is so much easier and more mellow than my first. Maybe it's because she's a girl, maybe I'm more experienced, or maybe she just has to go with the flow because of my toddler. Who knows? It's probably a little of everything. But sometimes I feel guilty that it's all about my first most of the time.
With my first I wrote down every milestone, always had a camera in hand, made all his baby food and noticed everything. Sure, I still take pictures and mark some milestones, but not so many now. It goes by so much faster the second time around. My son gets to run around while my daughter has to hang out in the Baby Bjorn or play by herself as I chase after him. The fact is, she simply doesn't get as much attention as he did.
But is the second child syndrome a disadvantage ... or a gift? Unlike with my first, I don't rush to her rescue at every peep. I'm usually trying to keep up with my 2-year-old, so by necessity my daughter is learning to wait a little longer to get picked up or fed or whatever she needs. But maybe I don't need to feel guilty; maybe being the second will make her more independent, patient and easy-going. I figure not handing my second everything she wants immediately is giving my daughter an important early life lesson. One I have to remind myself to give my 2-year-old once in awhile.