I don’t agree with describing it as rape. Yes, the instances described are wrong, but I don’t think they fall into any category like rape, sexual assault or assault. It is bad medical care, in many cases bordering on or actual malpractice, but those things happen in all medical situations. It is not different because it involves the vagina.

I have had three children and the last two I technically died for a minute during labor. All three delivers were by the same doctor and he knew from the moment I walked into his office what I expected with the first child up until he double checked with me that I wanted my tubes tied. With my last child he had to use forceps to finish pulling the child out because the child had manage to hit a nerve that caused me to go unconcious thanks to a condition we did not previously know about. Afterwords he explained to me why he intervened and I thanked him because if he would not have made that call I would not be here and neither would my son. Rape: not a chance. Tramatic maybe if you had higher expectations that some books and shows led you to believe. Personally I believe it is a pity-party and the labor is just the start for some mothers on a rocky road unfortunate complications. Ask parents with children with down syndrome, autism or ODD if parenting is what they thought it would be and they’ll all tell you it was not what they had expected just like no two labors will be the same.

As someone who is currently in therapy over “birth rape”, I feel it is an accurate descriptions. Until you have experienced a doctor putting his entire arm inside you without your consent and moving it around for 15 minutes while pressing on your stomach, you have no right to comment. I will be having reconstructive surgery to repair my pelvic floor from the “birth rape”. If someone put a broom stick, dildo, or other object into you without your consent, it is rape, so why isn’t a doctor’s fat arm and huge hand rape?

One more thing. My birth rape took place after I delivered a 4 lb baby vaginally and my doctor was trying to grab the second baby (twins) and pull him out. He was mad he couldn’t get him and had to do an emergency c-section with me under general. I can’t believe what some of you have posted about other women on here. I hope something like this never happens to you.

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