I’ve heard of this happening but it’s never happened to anyone I know. I think it is the height of childishness and selfishness. HE put that baby in there! He should grow up and act like a man. I feel very sorry for your sister in law. I hope she’s able to find a wonderful man to marry and even have more children with, although I wouldn’t be surprised if she was a bit scared off from having more children. Poor thing. It’s not her fault at all.

yeah… so… i’m not buying it… i think maybe he might have been fooling around with someone else before the kid was born… and now he’s to the point that he’s ready to move on to the next chick…or dude… and this is the only thing this numbsckull can pull out of his a$$ as an excuse to leave… what a total loser…. i feel for the woman… but then again… maybe there’s more than she’s telling… you never know…

As a sex therapist I can tell you that this experience of being turned off by a wife’s vulva after witnessing childbirth is not totally out of left field, although his decision to skip out on both his newborn child and his wife seems to be dramatic. There are plenty of additional reasons that he has abandoned his family including: fear of taking responsibility, anxiety over having to give up the “child position” of being the sole person being taken care of by his wife (jealousy of the new child), repetition of one of his own parent’s behavior when he was a child.
Although you might judge the actions, one shouldn’t disregard totally the possibility that the witnessing of a birth can be extremely traumatic and upsetting for someone and that their continued relationship to the genitals feels like it has changed forever to one of almost a phobic experience.
This is not to defend his behavior but to take seriously the possibility that husbands and/or partners may need to consider carefully whether they want to witness the actual birth. There have been plenty of mothers who don’t want to watch the baby emerge with the use of a mirror for the same reasons. They want to retain a certain relationship with their genitals in their minds’ eye.
Sari Cooper
Individual, Couples and Sex Therapist
www.saricooper.com

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I was A nurse for 24 years.NOTHING about this is new.What is new new is when this started,MOSTLy feminists pushed this)more than than A few men were FORCED into the del.room.I know for A fact that this is something that MANY men go through.The women who’s husbands leave them is their OWN fault.A man’s place has never been the del. room.Woman up women.When I had my 12 children my hubby was outside,pacing.He never had to see me grunting,yelling,sweating,with my nude pregnant (so called beautiful) body.And guess what,he didn’t leave me like my (past) friends who made theirs either.My husband(An ex-therepist)just confided in me of 2 recently moved young couples who wives made them do it cause it was ”expected.”Want to know who filed for divorce.BOTH.

I’d come to give green light with you on this. Which is not something I usually do! I enjoy reading a post that will make people think. Also, thanks for allowing me to speak my mind!

Very helpful

Handy