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Alone for the Holidays

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Divorce Detox: One of the greatest fears that surfaces with divorce is the fear of being alone. Whether it's the fear of growing old alone, sleeping alone, eating alone or just plain being alone, the depth of the fear can be debilitating. At no other time is it more pronounced than during the holidays. Negative fantasies about how the upcoming holiday season will be spent can spiral any newly separated or divorced person into a panic attack.

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Here are some common questions that our newly separated clients are asking:

"Will I feel embarrassed showing up at Thanksgiving without my ex?"
"Will Christmas morning be lonely?"
"Will I have a date for New Year's?"
"Will Santa come to both parents' houses?"

The answer to all these questions is yes and no, because you get to decide the answer. How you experience the holidays alone is completely within your control. At the end of the day, you have many different options of how to think about your holiday season alone. You have: 

  • Fantasies of what "should" be.
  • Memories of what used to be. 
  • Possibilities of what could be. 
Make three lists to help you determine what your choices are. Once you have your lists, review your answers and decide which of them leaves you feeling optimistic and hopeful. Let your imagination run wild; anything not doable can be modified to work with your current situation and lifestyle. 

Being on your own for the holidays is an opportunity to dig deep within yourself to find your own true desires and sources of joy. Use your alone time this holiday to get to know yourself. This will allow you to create a holiday experience that is perfectly designed just for you.

Andra Brosh, Ph.D., and Allison Pescosolido, MA, are the leading divorce-recovery experts in Los Angeles. Founders of "Divorce Detox," a proven program guaranteed to speed recovery through the divorce transition, Andra and Allison are certified grief-recovery experts, and both hold advanced degrees in the field of psychology. Visit www.divorcedetox.com to learn more about their programs and cutting-edge work.


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