Guest blogger Jessica Katz: Celeb moms put a lot of subconscious pressure on real moms. As a mom, I find that it is really hard not to be totally influenced by them. If you look at any blog or magazine, you see pictures of them slender,
traveling and breezing through what is a really hard time in life: motherhood.
When I went in for my six-week checkup after having my daughter, I shook my
head in disappointment at the weight I hadn't lost. I asked my OB, "How was
back on a runway by now?" My OB -- who treats a lot of celebrities -- said, "I can tell you how: She probably has a full-time nanny so she can work out
all day, a night nurse so she can sleep at night to have the energy to
exercise during the day and a chef to cook her healthy meals."
Yes, I should
have married Seal; I did not
have a team to help. As time passed, I traveled quite a bit with my daughter, and it was tedious and
exhausting. Just getting through security was a feat in itself. I had been
longing to go to New York
, but every time I thought of a restless infant on my
lap for five hours, I became detoured.
Then I would see Angelina Jolie
globetrotting and wonder: "How?!" I had to
remind myself that she and other celebs flew on private planes. And they had nannies to help hold
the baby on the plane so they could relax. Even those who didn't fly private flew with help. You might not see the help in the pictures of celebs
walking through airports, but I assure you, they are there just ten feet behind, helping with the luggage.
I had been feeling antsy and homebound when I saw a blog post about Nicole
Richie out at Soho House with her boyfriend/babydaddy Benji Madden
. "God," I
thought, "it must be nice to be able to maintain that part of your life." But then
I remembered that she had full-time help so she could sleep in the next morning and
go out late at night.
Celeb moms look
shiny rather than exhausted. They are in shape rather than soft in the middle. They have lives beyond "Sesame Street
," and they still maintain a balance of who
they were pre-baby.
But they are not
the norm, and we have to remember that. We have to remember
that there is only one Gisele in the world, and that is why she is so famous.
moms don't bounce back that fast. Most moms don't have help 24/7 and fly on
private planes. Most moms have traded glamour for parenthood. So don't feel
bad when you don't have the energy for date night or flying across the country, let alone a trip to the gym. You created a human life, you are shaping a person
to be great and you are doing it staff-free!