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PiscesI Want to Go Back to Work
Guest blogger Jessica Katz: I have always felt like being a mom is harder than any job I have ever had -- and I have had some tough bosses. I knew it was tough after I had my daughter and missed my old job, because I hated that job.
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Wow.. I am really disheartened by this article. I have a 2.5 year old and an 8 week old and I just went back to work. I would give just about anything to stay at home with my kids. I have no problem with women wanting to work instead of staying home but it angers me when there are alot of women out there that want to stay home but cant financially and yet you write this article about you and women you know are bitter about staying home and complain about it. You are fortunate to have the option because most women dont.
Wow.. I am really disheartened by this article. I have a 2.5 year old and an 8 week old and I just went back to work. I would give just about anything to stay at home with my kids. I have no problem with women wanting to work instead of staying home but it angers me when there are alot of women out there that want to stay home but cant financially and yet you write this article about you and women you know are bitter about staying home and complain about it. You are fortunate to have the option because most women dont.
I don’t know why a person sharing their struggles would anger anyone else. We are not all built the same.
I am the stay at home mother to four young boys. I was grateful and still am to leave the micromanaged work force. I thoroughly enjoy and absolutely love (almost) every single aspect of my life. Being the person in our home that keeps things running smoothly brings me a sense of satisfaction. Yet that’s not all of me and I still have interests outside of the home.
With that being said I can understand how another women would see the daunting and tedious monotony of staying at home to be a burden that was to great. Like I said we are not all the same.
The thing is it doesn’t have to be all one or the other. You can still take courses at your local college. You can get a part time job working your local farmers market on the weekend. You can volunteer for whatever organization you feel passionately about.
Giving a little bit of your time back to yourself will mean that you are giving the best to your family.
It also means your husband will have blocks of time to figure out how to parent in his own way too. Which I have found to be such a benefit to our marriage I can’t say enough about it. There is no reason to feel guilt about wanting to be more than a mom and wife. Let the guilt go and go find your happy medium.
Interesting point of view. I am a teacher and when I had my third child by age 40 I was overjoyed to spend three years at home with him. It was one kid vs twenty all day so naturally staying home with him was a piece of cake compared to teaching. I guess it’s all in your perspective.
I think you might want to consider adoption. There are many couples out there who are unable to have children of their own. It causes them real heartbreak to know that there are babies like these who need the time and attention of a devoted family to truly thrive. I hope you take the time to think about it.
I have been a stay at home mom since my daughter was 6 months old. She is graduating from high school with highest honors this year. I also have an 11 year old son who also is doing remarkably well his first year in middle school. My daughter is a well grounded young lady with good morals, compassion for other people and genuinely a nice young person to be around. I believe this is all a direct reflection of my choosing to give up my 14 year career at 32 years old to raise my children. It has been a financial struggle, but in the end well worth the sacrifices we made and continue to make. Do I miss working, absolutely! Especially now that they are growing up and it’s time for me to get back in the work force. It’s going to be hard to do with my turning 50 this year but I’m going to try. I have no regrets because when I chose to have children my task was to raise them to be good, happy people and I believe that happened because I was able to be there round the clock. People say to me, “your so lucky to get to stay home” Luck had nothing to do with it, it was a conscious decision and we had to give up a lot of material things to make that happen and my husband has worked two jobs the entire time. I understand that it’s not possible in all cases, but there have been people who say that to me that make quite a bit more money then we do. It’s all about the trade off and what your willing to do and what you want that truly makes you happy, whether its staying home or working you have to do what makes you the happiest because in the end it only you that you have to live with and answer too!
Anonymous - that was hateful and you should be ashamed.
I am currently struggling with this very issue. I have been a SAHM for almost nine months. Before the baby was born, I was completely dedicated to staying at home for at least a year and possibly until all my kids were in school. Now, I find myself twiddling my thumbs during naps and asking myself, “Is this enough for me?”. I, too, feel like this is a very special time in mommyhood, but I feel like I am issuing a complete surrender of myself and that will only last so long.
I think it is harder for our generation, because unlike our mothers, many of us do have options. In many cases, moms didn’t return to work after baby, because the work wasn’t fulfilling or didn’t pay well enough to cover child care. But, when you take those obstacles out of the equation, it becomes more about whether or not you are suited to be a SAHM. And, of course, that is a question each woman should ask herself.
Thanks for sharing.
Staying home with my 13 month old and new born twins is FAR EASIER than any of the high pressure jobs I had. SAHMs - let’s please be honest - we work on our own schedule and get far more break time and down time than you can imagine at a real job. I’m lucky enough to stay home and don’t for one second pretend it’s hard or that I’d be screwed if I had to work full time AND be a full time mom. This article is a slap in the face to working moms. Makes me almost embarassed to say I stay home.
My husband can work all day just fine, but two hours with our daughter and he needs a nap
Of course he needs a nap - because he has worked ALL week to support you and your daughter!!!
If you would be a real seeker after truth, it is necessary that at least once in your life you doubt, as far as possible, all things.
Great article! Good to read. I’ve got one observation to give about funny shirts.
The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today. Let us move forward with strong and active faith.
I cant say Im in complete accordance, thanks are in order for making the effort to put it up
Wow, I could cry. I’ve been struggling with this for awhile. Though I was 23 when I had my daughter, I miss the opportunity I had to get a degree and start a career. Thought I might not have had to leave one, I’m still losing out. I don’t even think I have the emotional stability to address the issues you’ve brought up here. As much as I love my daughter…it would be nice to have a little more something for me in life.