Guest blogger Jessica Katz: I have always felt like being a mom is harder than any job I have ever had -- and I have had some tough bosses. I knew it was tough after I had my daughter and missed my old job, because I hated that job.
My daughter was the toughest
boss I had ever had. There was no "hold" button, I could not send her to
voicemail and there were no lunch breaks. And, like many past bosses, she was
always screaming at me. It was nonstop. At my old job, if I needed a break I
would surf the Web or doodle. With my daughter, there were no breaks. I was on
I was sitting with a new mom recently, and she was
telling me how she couldn't wait to go back to work. Being home with the baby all day was driving her crazy, and it was so much harder than her job. She
was exhausted and frustrated. Another mom at the table who was already back at
work was sharing how much happier she was to be at the office. "Work is easier
than being home with my kid," she confessed. The fourth mom at the table had found a compromise by working three
days a week. She said she couldn't not work because she would go crazy; she
needed something else to do besides baby duty. But when she did work, she felt
After having my daughter, I knew I wouldn't work, except for the occasional
freelance job from home. But after a few months, I missed getting
dressed, going to an office and interacting with other adults. It was then that I started my baby group.
I met a group of moms who'd all had high-profile careers before their babies. And
shockingly, every single one of them was a little bitter to be home, resenting
the fact that their husband got to be out of the house all day while they were
stuck home with the baby.
I have to admit that being home is way harder than I expected. I think
partially it has to do with the fact that our generation is having children
later, at a point where we have a career and an independent life. My
mom had me at 23 years old and had yet to really have a career, so there was
nothing for her to really give up. I was 31 when my baby was born -- it was a whole new
I decided that they are only small for such a short time, and it goes by in a
flash; that I am really fortunate to be in a position where I can be home with
my baby. As tough as it is, I consider it a gift. Soon enough, she will be
in school and I can work all I want to. And not too long after that, she will
be all grown up.
But that doesn't discount how hard it is. My husband can work all day just fine, but
two hours with our daughter and he needs a nap. Women have a lot to
sacrifice when it comes to being moms. It is a tough choice: You can feel unfulfilled at
home and guilty at work. But every mom finds a way to make it through the day
over and over again -- even if it feels like it will never end.