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SAD! Mom Kills Baby over 'FarmVille'!

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I almost choked on my bagel when I read this one! So sad and thoroughly disturbing! reports that a young Jacksonville mom pleaded guilty to second degree murder for shaking her son, 3-month-old Dylan Lee Edmondson, to death because she was peeved he'd interrupted her game of "FarmVille," the popular Facebook game!

The most disturbing part? She stopped to smoke a butt in between two shaking fits!

The young mom, 22-year-old Alexandra Tobias, told authorities she was so frustrated with her son's crying that she shook him, lit up a butt to "compose herself," and then proceeded to shake him again. She called for help after the baby stopped breathing, first telling cops that he'd hit his head after a dog knocked him off the couch. Her son's cause of death was later determined to be "abusive head trauma."

What ON EARTH could drive a mom to kill her own baby over something as ridiculous as "FarmVille"? To try to wrap our minds around this travesty, we turned to our expert and friend Dr. Michelle Golland, a licensed clinical psychologist, who speculates that Tobias snapped under the grips of grief and addiction.

"As we know, gaming and video-game addiction is a real issue for many people," says Dr. Golland. "The hallmark of an addiction is that it interferes with daily functioning and other parts of your life are neglected. Clearly, Alexandria had an issue with impulse control and possibly an addiction to 'FarmVille,' which may have contributed to her out-of-control rage at her 3-month-old son."

Addiction aside, grief may have been another factor that fueled the fire: Dr. Golland has learned that Tobias' own mother had died recently, and that Tobias was the one who found her. "She may have been having complicated grief issues that contributed to her gaming addiction, [using it] as an avoidance technique to push away the intense sadness and pain because of the death of her mother," says Dr. Golland. "It may seem extremely counterintuitive that she would then kill her own child, but she may have actually believed that without her mother around, she was incapable of being a mother."

SUCH a horrible, painful story!

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Robin November 1, 2010, 12:34 PM

She didn’t kill her baby because she was addicted to video games, she killed her baby because she is a nut job. She would have done the same thing if the baby had “interrupted” her doing ANYTHING! She took a freaking smoke break for crying out loud! Let’s stop looking for ways to excuse these kinds of actions!

Anonymous November 1, 2010, 9:12 PM

that chick is just plan stupid how can anyone make an excuse for that, if you feel you can not be a mother give your kids up to the right people who will put them in a home where they are wanted. if you are so caught up in a game and smoking that you can’t take care of your child then you don’t need to be a mother.

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MP November 2, 2010, 8:56 AM

Just another reason you should get a license to breed.

XXXXX November 2, 2010, 6:05 PM

What a hag!

Selmada November 4, 2010, 4:13 PM

Shaken baby syndrome is far too common. The hospital where my boys were born sends you home with a video and info on the period called ‘purple crying’.
Too many people don’t have the support they need (I mean friends and family) when dealing with a new baby; if you add to that PPD and unfortunately this can be the result.
The mother has no reason for what she did; dont think I’m supporting her. She should have reached out for help before it got to this stage. She should have called a neighbor, a friend, social services when she felt overwhelmed. The incident happened one night, but I would be willing to bet it wasnt the first shake, the first period of frustration. I have to wonder why neighbors hadnt called the police with so much crying.

I think parenting classes should be mandatory for all pregnant women (and any partners). I think, like they do with teens, give them one of those dolls that cries and cries and see how they handle it. Get them the help before the problem occurs.

Society does play a role in this.

JNYDE November 4, 2010, 4:35 PM

I’ve never heard of anyone addicted to cigarettes killing someone over an interrupted smoke break so why blame video games? The problems seem to lie with the woman, not what she’s addicted to.

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You’re a happy chap I have to point out.

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