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Big-Night Sex: Pressure's On!

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Doing it on New Year's Eve (or Valentine's Day, or your anniversary) doesn't have to be a "must." It just has to be fun!

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Your wedding night. Anniversaries. New Year's Eve. Valentine's Day. All very big nights, and all are expected to result in one thing: SEX. Everyone knows that you haaave to "do it" on your wedding night ... and that it's only polite to commemorate your love by "making it" on your anniversary ... and that you certainly have to go out with a "bang" on New Year's Eve. And Valentine's Day? Well, screw the romance. You should just want to screw on V-Day. Period!

But the truth is, these big nights can often lead to high expectations and lots of disappointment on both ends (literally). So how do you take the obvious, robotic, must-do sex out of these nights and make it fun and spontaneous? Well, with New Year's Eve practically upon us, we asked author Karrine Steffans to weigh in.

"There is no one special night for romance, and there can be no spontaneity in a night earmarked for it," she says. "What a 'big night' can be, however, is a reminder to make every day the perfect day to show your mate how unconditionally you love him."

Here are Karrine's five fab ways to make a "big night" great -- in and out of the sack:

1. Find 100 Ways: Present your partner with a list of 100 things you absolutely love about him. It may seem like a lot, but once you get going, you'll realize just how easy it is to find 100 reasons why this guy is your guy.

2. At Your Service: Serving someone does not make you subservient. The gift of service is a testament to your love and devotion to one another. Do whatever he asks of you, and allow yourself to be served as well.

3. Be Still: If your lives are lived on the move, take this time to simply be. Between kids, jobs, family and friends, there is always so much to do and so many people to talk to! Block out the outside world (even your kids for a bit, if you can), and enjoy the silence with no pressure of doing anything at all!

4. We Are Family: New Year's Eve doesn't have to be all about you and your man; it can also be a time for you and your children. If you can't or won't have a sitter, include your kids with cards, cookies, movies and games. Reiterate to them that they're a huge part of your love for one another.

5. Freaks Come Out at Night: Whether you relaxed all day or spent it out and about, at the end of it all, you and your hubby will wind up in bed together. Nothing beats the tried-and-true romance of a bubble bath, music, Champagne, strawberries, whipped cream and kickass lingerie! Set your inhibitions free and try something you've never done before. Shock and amaze your lover -- and don't wait a whole year to do it again!

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