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Can You Be Over-Prepared for Your Baby's Arrival?

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Guest blogger Mom-To-Be: I thought I was prepared to have my baby. The nursery was finished. The baby clothes were washed. Even the diapers were purchased.

mother carrying baby
Then my family came to visit, and the rapid-fire questions started coming at me.

"Is the car seat installed?"

"Is your hospital bag packed?"

"Is your birth plan written?"

My head started spinning and I could feel the sweat rings forming on my shirt. At the time, I was still six weeks out, and certainly I still had time to pack, right?

Wrong, if you ask my family -- which is full of mothers who all wanted to give me their unsolicited two cents.

I felt like I was going to cry as I lugged my bag from the closet and started to fill it with the things on the checklist that my aunt had printed off the Internet (hair ties, lip balm, maxi pads, granny panties ...). By the time I was finished, all that was missing was the kitchen sink. And I was exhausted.

My husband reluctantly turned off the football game, left his seat on the couch and headed out to the garage to install the car seat. We drew the line at putting a car seat base in our second car (that was our little "fight back" moment,) although my husband later found himself putting together the Pack N Play, the swing and the mobile.

Don't get me wrong: These things are, of course, helpful and necessary. But I feel like I haven't had a chance to breathe, and everyone I talk to seems to add something to my to-do list. At this point, I have backups for my backups, more diapers than I could possibly ever need and more lists than I know what to do with.

Isn't it true that as much as you plan for a baby, a lot of it just flies out the window once the little one is born? And even though I know they mean well, is my family over-preparing me?

Moms, what do you think?

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37 comments so far | Post a comment now
Kelley December 21, 2010, 7:44 AM

no need for them to panic you, but you will be glad that swing and mobile are ready to be used when you want them….time does fly with the baby and you won’t want to waste it trying to get something assembled…best of luck!!

Jilly December 21, 2010, 8:56 AM

Tell them to chill out and they are upsetting you! You wan to enjoy this not be paranoid. I know they think they are being helpful but it is making you crazy.
You will be so tired after the birth you will not think anything is as important as all this worry!
You-toiletries, panties, slippers
Baby-onsies, blanket, pacifier, bassinet, diapering supplies and food supplies(if breastfeeding, no supplies needed, except lanolin for your tatas! They will hurt, but persevere and it WILL go away and you will have the most awesome experience, plus the conveinience is incredible!)
And hey, its not like you don’t have people waiting right there to run to the nearest store to get you what you need, the world is not gonna shut down, just enjoy your new baby!!

Pamala December 21, 2010, 1:00 PM

I didn’t even unpack my bag that I took to the hospital. LOL!!

But you will be glad that the other stuff was put together. It’s easier to do it now than to wait and do it later.

michelle December 21, 2010, 3:55 PM

It doesnt sound like you are overpreparing. it sounds like the family though well meaning stressed you out a bit.
Sometimes, it may get aggravating when everyone is giving their two cents. Try not to get too streessed and listen to ideas that make sense.

My two cents December 22, 2010, 11:24 AM

Instead of tossing all this on you for you to worry about, why don’t they get it done for you?! sure, birth plan, hospital bag and the like are something you need to do, but putting things together and getting everything else ready, they could throw in a helping hand instead of add to your to do list! Sounds like you are fully prepared, take a breath, relax, and if family or friends come up with something else you “need” to do before baby, tell them where to find it and where the tools are. you are pregnant and need to relax. If it is that serious and not done yet, they can lend a helping hand…instead of just causing you stress. If they aren’t willing…tell them to keep their opinions and suggestions to themselves. :) Congrats!!

???? December 22, 2010, 12:24 PM

maxi pads, HA HA

Jaime December 22, 2010, 3:45 PM

I completely agree with ‘My two cents’ People are not fully aware of all the stress they unintentionally lay on a soon to be/new mommma. Don’t be afraid to ask for help or even demand it at times when you are feeling overloaded! Happy mommy happy baby :)

and yes… maxi pads are a good one to have hahahaha

Charleen December 24, 2010, 11:04 AM

One thing I see too many mother-to-be not prepare enough for if at all is breastfeeding. I strongly suggest that those planning to breastfed at least read a good book specifically on breastfeeding. If your hospital offers breastfeeding classes consider taking that too. Finely, I suggest you line up someone who can help with breastfeeding problems postpartum such as lactation consultant or breastfeeding support group since too many doctors are poorly trained about breastfeeding support to rely on them as mean of breastfeeding support.

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