Guest blogger Emily: This year I made a deal: No gifts. I agreed with my family, including my husband, that this year we would not exchange gifts. Nothing. Nada. Zilch.
Instead of buying everyone a gift, I decided we would take what little funds we did have and make a charity donation on everyone's behalf. Alas, NO ONE -- including my husband -- followed through on the deal! They broke the pact, and I now look like an a**.
"Noooo! Don't worry!" they said, handing me lovely gifts as I sat there blushing in disbelief. "It's just a little something! I picked it out months ago!" SO??? Is that supposed to make me feel better about the fact that I didn't buy you sh*t?! Not even a card?!
I mean, I felt awful. But frankly, while I appreciate the thought, I actually think it's kind of rude. It's like showing up with your kids to an "adults-only" wedding, or showing up to a dinner party after having eaten dinner! It's rude. A deal is a deal and a pact is a pact -- especially in this economic climate!
Like many families in this country, mine is having a tough time navigating through rocky financial times. All of our excess funds are being poured into "essentials only," and we're having to make slashes in our spending left and right. Obviously, the decision to cut back on gifts and presents during the holiday season was not an easy one. Who doesn't like to give and receive? But I'm disappointed in my family for not honoring my decision -- our agreement, actually -- and essentially "showing me up" and making me look like the Grinch who stole Christmas/Hanukkah/Kwanzaa and even New Year's. I suck!
Look, the fact that my husband went out of his way to buy me a purse I'd had my eye on for a while was very sweet, but I'd be willing to put money (that I really don't have) on the fact that he was secretly hoping that I'd have a little gifty-poo up my sleeve, too. Well, guess what? I don't. I hadn't even thought about it, and now I feel like I am forced to -- and to me, that's exactly what the holidays are NOT all about ....
Should people stick to the "no-gift policy," or is Emily really the Grinch? Tell us what you think!