Guest blogger Jessica Katz: Having a shower for your second baby appears to be one of the bigger baby taboos out there. People have very firm opinions on this topic, and the majority of them say baby showers are for first babies only. Some people soften, though, and say that having a shower for a first baby with a new partner or a baby of a different sex is acceptable. Only a small group of optimists say that every baby should get a celebration. I have found that most people feel that a second shower is greedy and tacky.

Why am I so interested, you ask? Well ... I am pregnant with my second child. And while I am not yet sure of the sex, if it is a boy, I will need new stuff -- blue stuff. This is because I have a girl who was adorned in very feminine products and clothing. However, my kids will only be 18 months apart, and therefore, having a baby shower yet again just to score these boy items feels a bit excessive.

My mom had her fourth child at 43, and I threw her a baby shower. People were delighted to come. First off, she hadn't had a child in ten years, and she had never had a shower before. She'd also had me 20 years earlier, when she presumably had a different social circle. She loved the party, and I loved throwing it.

According to etiquette, it is never truly improper to have a baby shower, because the party is supposed to be about a lot more than gifts. It is to celebrate the new addition to the world. And you can have themed showers to incorporate that (i.e., an "It's a Boy!" shower or a "Pamper Mom" shower where the gifts are for the mom).

Party planner Jaime Geffen of the Los Angeles-based company YourBASH! thinks that you should have a second shower if you are having a baby of a different sex -- and that the mommy deserves a party, too. "You need new things," she says. "You don't necessarily have to fully register, but you can get a few new baby items. And if you don't feel comfortable getting gifts, people can donate to a charity. It is more about the idea of gathering for a baby shower to celebrate the baby. Every new mom should have a party; it makes you feel good to have your friends around you. If I have a second baby, I will have one!"

I'm undecided on the issue as of yet, but I still have some time. I tend to be superstitious about having too many baby things in the house, and truth be told, I already have most of it. But in my opinion, any excuse to get all the people you love into one room to celebrate is a good idea!

Moms, what do you think?