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I Recently Found Out My Best Friend is Pregnant

Wednesday, May 13, 2009
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Anh-Chi: I recently found out my best friend is pregnant!!!!!!! I couldn't believe the news ... she's been trying for an entire year, and finally the day has arrived! When I read the e-mail, I was crying hysterically ... I mean just completely bawling like a little baby. I was ridiculously happy for my friend, especially since she's been dreaming about becoming a mother for so long. I know without a doubt, she and her husband will be amazing parents ... They're two of the most selfless, patient, and compassionate people I know, and their strong marriage will really get them through this 9-month period and lifelong journey together.

Anh Chi

Although I'm overly excited for my friend, I'm a little sad at the same time. This is going to be bittersweet for me, since my friend and I wanted to go into this together. We wanted to become pregnant around the same time, to offer each other the much-needed support. Although my friend doesn't live in Sacramento, she has a home here, and plans to move back once her child is born. But I'm afraid I won't be around, as my husband might be stationed out of state by then. Just as I was starting to become acclimated to Sacramento, we're going to move in the not-too-distant future. It would've been perfect ... my friend and I would not only share the common experience of marriage, but also the beautiful and rewarding experience of motherhood. If I do become pregnant soon, our kids would've been able to play and grow up together ... honestly, I don't think I could ask for more. My friend is the sister I never had ... she's been there for me through thick and thin, and she would've been the best "auntie" to my future children. I would have LOVED to reciprocate that love, and be the best auntie to her own children as well.

So I don't really know what the future holds for my husband and I. I'm not even sure if we'll ever move back to Sacramento. Other than my best friend, there's no compelling reason. Our home was only meant to be temporary, since my husband has been stationed nearby for the past several years. We're planning to sell our home so our prospects of moving back are even slimmer now.

That's the harsh reality of life though ... you meet amazing people, but you have to be willing to part from them. My husband's become particularly good at coping with this, after 10 years of being in the Air Force. Friends come and go, and my husband still connects with his friends, but he doesn't let the separation get to him. I don't know if I can ever have that same kind of strength. I get so attached to my friends ... I don't easily let people into my life, so when I do, they're extremely special. Of course, I move on with my own life, but there's always a part of me that misses my friends. I never had any siblings, so my friends are like family to me.

You can now understand why my husband and I want 4 kids. Not only do we want a relatively large family, but we want our kids to have each other. Growing up without any siblings, I spent a lot of time on my own. I didn't have a typical childhood, and wasn't carefree as my peers. I think that was largely attributed to the fact that I was an only child. I hope to provide something more promising and rewarding for my own. I don't want them to feel lonely or isolated ... I hope our kids will provide one another companionship. They should feel loved and supported, and have as full a life as possible. So let's hope I'll get pregnant soon, so my husband and I can get a head start on building a family!!!

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Anh-Chi, I’m can relate to your feelings about your friend getting pregnant. It’s bittersweet for sure.
- Meredith
Posted 05/13/09 02:52 PM
Thanks for the comment Meredith. If we can all get pregnant during this project, at least we’ll have each other’s support. I’m crossing my fingers for you and the other ladies!
- Anh-Chi
Posted 05/13/09 06:12 PM
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