It's as much about your mind as it is your body.

Any mother will tell you with terrific earnestness that clamping down emotionally and mentally on baby-making will give you anything but a baby. "If you freak out about fertility, you're not going to get pregnant," says Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz, an OB/GYN and momlogic advisory board member.

"Getting pregnant is a mind-body connection," says Dr. Gilberg-Lenz. "And it's a crapshoot. We're talking about a natural experience. So can we explain why healthy people don't get pregnant? No, but there's a mind-body thing there that you have to honor."

So here you are: You and your partner have been given the Fertility Green Light, you're ready to be parents, and the sex is hot. Where's the baby?

"In terms of optimizing, the reality is the younger you are, the more fertile you are," says Dr. Gilberg-Lenz. "You can't control statistics but you can be as healthy as possible, be aware of yourself, and have a good anti-stress technique. Equally if not more important is to know when you're ovulating."

She continues, "One of my patients realized she was off about which day in her cycle she was ovulating, and she said to me, 'We've been having sex at the wrong time!' I said to her it was the wrong time to get pregnant but it's always the right time to have sex for pleasure. If it's not fun, it's sad, and it should be fun if you want to get pregnant."

Ovulation times are different for everyone, but Dr. Gilberg-Lenz advises women to avoid the temperature-taking technique because it's hard to know if you're using it accurately. "Pay attention to when there's a milky vaginal discharge -- that's when you're ovulating," she says. "Taking your temperature is stressful. For many women it's like work and it gives them stress, and that's not going to help anyone get pregnant."

Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz completed her undergraduate education at Wesleyan University and post-baccalaureate pre-med studies at Mills College. She earned her medical degree from the USC School of Medicine and has been in private practice for 9 years. She is the co-founder of Cedar Sinai Medical Center's Green Committee and lives in Los Angeles with her husband and two children.

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