The horrible thing about divorce, no matter if it's right or wrong or if you're doing the right thing, is: It's physically painful. My body just hurt.
I think that whole "You complete me" thing is bullsh*t. The only person who can make you complete is yourself.
I eventually got divorced because I was so lonely and depressed and I just couldn't live like that anymore. I decided I needed to give myself a chance for happiness.
Once I got divorced, I started my own business and bought my own place. If I were still married, it would still be all about my ex. I can make my dreams come true now, whereas when I was with him, my dreams didn't matter.
James F. is a Connecticut-based dad who works in commercial real estate. He has been married twice and divorced twice. He has three boys -- a stepson and two sons -- from his second marriage. His boys are 20, 14 and 9.