My daughter is 5 months old, and she was 4 months when we brought her to his parents house. I had to give my baby to my husband's parents to look after when I realized that my health isn't doing so well. I had Carpo-tunnel in both my wrists and I am not in the healthy state of losing sleep as I had problems with frequent headaches and migranes even before my daughter was born. Now I am getting better, but there's a new problem. Because of the fact that his parents live in another state that is 4 1/2 hours away from us, we could only visit once every 2 weeks. Recently, my daughter started to not want me at all. No matter it is that I tried to hold her or feed her or play with her, she will cry as soon as she sees me. This problem is only on me as my husband seems to be fine with her. She laughs when she sees him and plays with him! I am frustrated and hurt as I love my daughter very very much and seeing that she does not want to even look at me, let alone bonding, I feel like I am a bad mom for letting her live with someone else and me not able to watch her because of my health. What can I do to get the bonding back as when I was with her before she left me?
while I've not experienced this I've read that between 5 and 10 months children can go thru a "stranger anxiety" phaze where they will cling to their primary caregiver. I think that it will pass and the more time you spend with her the better...DON'T feel guilty about letting her live somewhere else, you were doing what was best for her.
My husband has the same problems you are going through, we have 4 children and he is serving in Iraq, he has a close relationship with our 3 year old twins because he spent a lot of time with them when they were babies, but our 2 year old daughter was born about a month before he shipped out and the first time he came back she didn't recognize him and he had trouble bonding with her, the way we helped them bond was to give them alone time but i always had to stay close by to where they were spending time together without her being able to see me, we did this because we were trying to get her to be comfortable with him without me around but we understood that this was a man she didn't recognize so if she got scared i would come into the room and calm her down and let her know this was her daddy. they have a great relationship now, but we have to go through this again because we now have a 7 month old son that he will be meeting for the first time in a month.