Moms discuss the idea of wearing a special ring to symbolize your divorce.
We posted Divorce Rings: Are You Kidding?, and received many responses from our moms out there. Emmy asked: "Is being divorced something to be proud of? Does it make you more attractive or desirable? Why in the world would someone want to advertise this?"
Another mom says: "Why not just get a tattoo that says 'I'm bitter'?"
Emmy responds: "I think the divorce ring is a great idea. I would like to buy one. No, I am not bitter. I just think the divorce ring is a symbolic way of celebrating the fact that I am no longer tied down to an abusive husband."
Do you think moms celebrating divorce through jewelry is a good idea?
Why not a ring. It is something you can put on, keep on, and show for all to see. It does symbolizes a bond. A bond, with new found independence. As for confusion from wearing it on your significant finger. I agree, that is not the finger to wear it on. I am with the many who opt for wearing it on the middle finger. So much more symbolic and fun.
Finaly, the ring is about $150.00 not exactly enough for a new wardrobe or a relaxing vacation. Do try to get the facial as well as the ring. This way he and his may not miss your happy smile while you sport your divoorce ring on the finger most opt. for.
Correction from Emmy
Ginny is the one who asked, "Is being divorced something to be proud of ect.
Emmy(me) would never ask that. You can get my opnion on the: Divorce is not fun. However,ect post.
If you need a piece of jewelry to symbolize your newfound independence, why a ring? Rings have, for a long time, been symbols of relationships and bonds. Why not a bracelet or a necklace? Or a really nice pair of earrings?
Also, wouldn't it be hard to find a new mate? Like if you're wearing a ring on your significant finger, one might assume that it's a wedding band, not a divorce band. I'm just saying... it's a little confusing.
If it was me, I would rather spend my money on a relaxing vacation or a new wardrobe. I think that I would want to change something big about my life and get a make-over, and not just a replacement bling.
Divorce is not fun. However, when you have done all you can to make the marriage work. When he is destroying the marriage by cheating, beating, ect. Then yes, celebrate the ending of that unholy union. Celebrate for making the right choice. Celebrate for being a strong example to all of our daughters. Celebrate for starting life anew.
Finaly, we have rings that symbolize graduation year, promise, engagement, new baby, motherhood and even family. Why not have a ring that symbolizes your new found independence.
What a stupid idea!
Why Not?? Divorce is not something to be ashamed of! It is a big change in your life, and a passage to move on! If it is a symbol that makes someone feel better, WEAR IT!