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My son is 12 and one moring i went to wake him up. I pulled the sheets off of him and he was naked. He woke up and just sat there still half-asleep when he finally was awake he tried to cover him self. I just couldn't move i just couldn't belive that he sleeps naked. Now hes asking me i he can see me naked. He try's to look when i changing or when i taking a shower. I have even seen videos that are of me changing. In those videos i do not get full nude just down to my bra and underwear. In a nother video its me getting redey for bed im getting out of my cloths and i am naked when in bed but there was bad lighting so you couldn't see anything but just my outline. He keeps on trying and asking to see me naked.
Should i let heim see me naked
If i do when should i let him
I just wont him to stop brothing me or spying on me
What sould i do.

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take it off

i think you should if thats what he want no big deal

i think thats cool he wants to see u naked-u should let him see u nude

let him see you naked whats rhe big deal your famley

let him see you nude i have done it

i would love to see him naked

Dear Penthouse.......

Oh my god that child needs psychiatric care and so does the parent for
considering letting him see you naked. this sounds like really perverted behavior.

Sick Sick Sick....I thought the post were looked at by some mysterious being to ensure they are appropriate....Where are the parental controls when you need them....I think anyone that takes this post seriously needs to rethink parenthood...

First of all from the tone of the original post I have doubts that it is for real. However I apologize to the OP if it is.
There is nothing shameful in the naked body. As one previous respondent put it 'nothing inherently sexual in the naked body'.
My two boys and one daughter have always seen both myself and my wife naked. Not because we flaunt ourselves but because we have never felt it necessary to 'cover up' if one of them happens to see us undressed. All of them (now adult) are well adjusted and are comfortable with their bodies and are not prudish in anyway, neither are they exhibitionist or prone to wear clothes that display their bodies.
Having an open and relaxed attitude to nudity within a family encourages not, atmosphere of rampant sexuality, rather it does just the opposite. Children thus do not grow up wondering .....'what is the big deal' . They grow up thinking ..........'what's all the fuss about'. Which leaves them free to develop in all ways at their own pace. Both socially and sexually.
Further to the above. My wife and I did become members of a naturist club some years ago when our kids were about 6 to 9. All were happy in that environment and I can honestly say while we were in the club I had no worries at all about who they were with nor who they were talking to. Given that everyone was naked that may seem strange but it is true nonetheless. A naturist club is rather an asexual place.
Curiously on a Saturday evening there would often be a bit of a dance in the club house and the young girls on the dance floor wearing short skirts and tops gathered far more admiring glances then than when they were totally naked during the day. It is what you can't see that is enticing.
We attended the club on and off for 3 or 4 years before deciding it was too far to travel every weekend. The kids were disappointed that we stopped going.
So I say if you never start acting frantically embarrassed when your youngsters see you then you will never have a problem.
You most certainly won't have them sneaking video clips of you.

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let him see you naked.

I am a seventeen year old boy. I live in a Christian home and have never seen either of my parents naked. However, when I reached teenage years, I accidentally stumbled upon some porn (don't remember where). Ever since, I have had a horrible habit of needing to see women in the nude. Take it from a boy with a porn problem. If you show your son your body, it won't stop. He'll ask again and again. He'll get involved in pornographic things, and could possibly end up getting a girl pregnant. Do you want that kind of a life for your son?

I am a seventeen year old boy. I live in a Christian home and have never seen either of my parents naked. However, when I reached teenage years, I accidentally stumbled upon some porn (don't remember where). Ever since, I have had a horrible habit of needing to see women in the nude. Take it from a boy with a porn problem. If you show your son your body, it won't stop. He'll ask again and again. He'll get involved in pornographic things, and could possibly end up getting a girl pregnant. Do you want that kind of a life for your son?

My children are young, but we have always been open with our bodies. I believe, however, that there is an age that you have to teach appropriate behavior, personal space, privacy, and that some things are personal. I find it troubling that a parent would even have this kind of question. It is not right for a 12 year old to take videos of his naked mother. That is not right. I think kids are curious, but they are not voyeuristic like this seems to be. I think there should be some counseling or something. Both my daughter and son have been curious before, I just say simply that they are 'mommy's private parts and we all have private parts.' I think this is something that you should start young.

what I think it not a big deal if he wants to see you naked you should let your body to see after all you are his mother. Let him see your naked body there is no need to be embarres and answer all his questions. At this age boys wants to see naked women. Its batter to see you naked rather than indulge in any other wrong society. In my openion it will be a healthy excersie to have a naked bath between mother son and answer his all questions and let him to observ all private parts of your body keenly after that he won't try to spy you.

Why are all of you so afraid of the human body?

You want to end rape, pedophilia, incest, and all the other taboos? Stop treating the naked human body as if it's an inherently sexual object.

Read your comments. They're so rooted in fear of our basic humanity. Imagine if we raised our children to understand the human body, its changes, and how it works rather than always hiding it because you think it's "dirty".

if you are uncomfertable with him seeing you nude and he really wants to know about the womans body then buy a doll or dummy or somwthing so you can teach him about it. or if you have a friend that would do anything and i mean anythingggggggggggggg for you than have her get nude and if she for some out of this world reason would do anyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyything let him touch her breasts and learn

To the last poster that is absurd! Maybe if the kid is under 5 he would want to see his mother naked but not when he is twelve. A child would not want to see either of there parents naked.

I think it is pretty normal for a boy to be excited or interested in seeing his mother's privates. I know the first woman I saw naked was my mother. It was back in the 60's. I looked through the large old fashion key hole in her bedroom and she was totally naked...she had soo much hair on her privates. She has passed but I must honestly say I did get a little boy erection as I starred at her nude body.

I think that you and your son has a problem if he is asking to see you naked and has a video of you changing.I think you need to get some serious counseling for you and your son and quick.thats just to perverted.most kids think it is disgusting to see their parents naked.

I certainly hope this is all a farce...yikes!

I find this whole thing disturbing. I believe in America we are probably the more backward of any other country and in some ways I'm extremely happy that we are. This is one of those ways, in the garden of Eden when Adam and Eve ate from the forbidden tree, they saw they were naked and covered themselves, until they had eaten from the tree they hadn't realized being naked around each other was wrong. It wasn't until they created sin, now it is. A mother or father who sees their children naked, should apologize and leave the room immediately. Later on sit down and have a talk with the child, ask if there are any questions, if they feel uncomfortable because their parent saw them unclothed explain that's okay to feel that way because you would feel the same way had the situation been reversed. Just because the naked body is not something to be ashamed of doesn't mean you're going to get in your car naked and go shopping or to church, parent or child. I tend to agree that the post is a prank, the spelling is atrocious, the using of 69 is telling in of itself. If there is a child out there with these thoughts and a mother obviously with these thoughts you both need to seek psychiatric help, this will only lead to disaster. The mother could be teasing the young boy and leading him down a path that could lead to hating his mother and becoming a rapist. It is nothing to joke about. The mother who allows her son to come into the bathroom while she is in the tub has some serious issues she needs to address herself before she gives advice to anyone else. Clothes were invented for a reason, if the Lord had thought it was permissible to go around naked, neither Jesus nor any of his disciples would have worn clothing.
Really what are you people thinking?

Your a nutbag, and if your not already a registered sex offender, you should be.

If your writing skills are any indication of your parenting skills,this blog makes sense. Parenting can be difficult when children have children. Very young mothers can lack the perspective of mother/child and form almost something akin to a sibling relationship, where playing "doctor" can be a normal outlet of satisfying one's curiousity. The problem here is that you are the mother and you are walking on thin ice and are too unenlightened to understand that. You need help right now, before something happens that you will regret for the rest of your life. Without really knowing if this is a mental or a social problem, I would suggest discussing this issue with a trained social worker- look in the yellow pages- or your local mental health center. You owe it to your child.

My four year old son keeps trying to look under my shirt, and I've changed clothes in front of my kids without a fuss (although they like to point out my "fat"). I remember asking my babysitter when I was about five years old if I could see what "boobies" looked like (she obliged with a very quick flash after I bugged her enough -- it was nothing really inappropriate). But the scenario described by "soccer69mom" must be a joke, probably posted by some young teens. If it's real, it's pathetic.

oh, and another reason i believe that this is a farce is because of the screen name. soccer69mom? i mean...really? if this is an adult and her screen name has a sexual overtone...what the heck is she doing in front of her kid to make him such a perv?

pfft...fake post...NEXT!

please ignore this post. this is obviously a child. it's too unbelievable and the typos are ridiculous.

I have a 15 year old son. I have never from the time he was little tried to hide my body from him, nor have I made him feel he should be ashamed of his body. When he was small 2 or so we had one of those large square inflatable pools, and he always swam naked. I'd put a suit on him, but he almost always shucked it. When he had friends over I always talked to the parents first, but it was always the kids choice of how they swam. There was never any sexual undertones or acts with these kids, just the freedom of skinny dipping of ages gone now. We now have a real swimming pool and from the age of 7-8 until he was about 13 when he'd get home from school he'd shuck his clothes and swim nude all the time. We live in a small town and our yard overlooks a field so it wasn't like downtown Chicago, but I didn't want him to feel shame of the human body. He ran around the house naked at times too. I called him my little hedonist. He still comes into the bathroom when I'm in the tub and we talk. We always knock first, and wait for permission to enter bathrooms or bedrooms. Privacy is a need to all. Other than stripping to show my son my body,(which would be wrong) it's always been a normal natural thing in our home.
It's normal curiousity and I always tried to answer his questions and if I felt it was not apropriate to answer at his age I told him so and answered them later. Like I said now he's 15 -almost 16 and the naked human body is not some taboo of life. Non of this has ever been sexual in anyway.
I've travelled to a lot of other contries and America is one of the worst for having a large personal space. Other countries touch when they talk and get close physically. I didn't want a child with a large personal bubble. He's a wonderful caring, intelligent person. He helps others, holds doors for people, offers to help elderly people if he sees a need and hates the way kids his age are so critical and abusive to others. I must have made some good choices.

Raging hormones! Start with yourself first! How do you act in-front of your son? Do you walk around dressed "too sexy?" Your e-mail address is very strange soccer69mom (that's why I'm asking these questions.) I think you should talk to your doctor or get some psychiatric advise (A.S.A.P.!) Just the fact that you posted this message is a great start! Since, you took the time to post this message - take time to make some phone calls & find out how tho handle this situation. Remember, that this is your child NOT your friend. I'm sure you love your child so, do the right thing for your son, yourself & the future of your relationship!
D. Siapkas

Your e-mail is really strange soccer69mom! Start with changing that! My other comment is posted under D. Siapkas

Tell him he would never in his life see you naked.and what happen that morning was only a accident.and sometimes a parent might need to see thier child naked (dr.office, hospital ,etc)to help them and tell him if he continues to ask to see you naked (we are going for help) and go but talk to him first you the mother and he's the child

Tell him he would never in his life see you naked.and what happen that morning was only a accident.and sometimes a parent might need to see thier child naked (dr.office, hospital ,etc)to help them and tell him if he continues to ask to see you naked (we are going for help) and go but talk to him first you the mother and he's the child

Tell him he would never in his life see you naked.and what happen that morning was only a accident.and sometimes a parent might need to see thier child naked (dr.office, hospital ,etc)to help them and tell him if he continues to ask to see you naked (we are going for help) and go but talk to him first you the mother and he's the child

You look at your 12 year old son naked in bed and don't cover him up? There are videos of you changing clothes and in bed? Your son asks to see you nude? Both of you need psychiatric help! And fast!

To me this seems odd. First of all i don't know if you always wake him up in the morning but if you do he probably would wear clothes. Why would you pull your 12 year old sons sheets off and not cover him back up again right away if he was nude, especially since you said he was half asleep and then finally he woke. Well so this happened and this is what i would do. Defiantly don't let him see you naked. He is 12! and doesn't need to see his mother naked. I would talk to him about it. Explain to him it was an accident that one morning when you saw him and that your sorry. Tell him he will not see your naked and ask why he wants to. If it's because he's curious about a womens body. I would just answer whatever questions he had. And if it's cause he wants to get even by seeing your body tell him that's not going to happen and getting even is not the way to go.