I can't get my son to stop talking back to me and my husband doesn't do anything about it! Something has to change. Any ideas?
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well, when my kids get anything below a d is school,i take away their playstations , as well as nintendo ds. also when mine are disrespectful to anyone they have to write sentences about what they did. my kids are twelve and fourteen . as well as allowance taken away ( they get 40 a month.) only if they do all of their chores.
I do not know how old your son is, but age can make a difference. Attitude "adjustments" are easier the younger they are. Once they become teens, or even preteens, testosterone starts to rule their attitude. I have to wonder since your husband is unwilling to help; does your husband get away with talking back to you? I believe the father is the first example a boy has to learn how to respect a woman, especially his mother. I cannot suggest a punishment without knowing the situation. If he is only following his father's example, then you have a difficult task ahead. Whatever the case, your husband should back you up, not ignore the problem.
Oh for the sake of mankind don't be his enemy and strip his room. You're not his enemy, you're his mother. Speak to him as another human being. Avoid yelling, and he'll likely not to yell back. Tell your husband how this issue is important softly and calmly too.
Tell your husband to grow up and start acting like a father.
i dont think taking his stuff is the answer, but having a sit down with dad is, your husband should talk and explain that is not only his mother that he talks back to but his(your husbands wife). and then you should have a talk, only for so long intimidation of im mom just listen will work, he needs to learn to respect you and learn all the things mom does, cooks cleans, maybe dinner is not there for him laundry suddenly doesnt get done and so forth, but the root of the problem is he is a boy and a talk could help. good luck
Jump to the root of the problem. Why is he yelling at you? Hungry, tired, allergies can all attribute. If he has any of these issues, solve that first. And then proceed, by going down to his level. eye to eye and say YOU CAN NOT TALK TO ME THAT WAY. Sit here (most boring spot in the room) until you can speak to me with respect. You are not a doormat. Your husband should NOT be the one to solve this. You, and only you can teach people how to treat you.
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I think you have to show him who's boss and who's the parent here!! I like the idea of stripping his room!! Take things away that he likes, like video games , t.v or what ever he likes to do. Then if he"s good and his attitude changes then he can earn his things back. That will show him who's the boss of that house hold!!! Good luck you will need it!!
Try talking to him like a human being as opposed to yelling at him. Stripping his room of everything will make you hate him.
I'm from Mexico and in my country if you dare to talk to your mother like that you'll get a bitchslap. Is not the dads fult is yours for lething talk to you like that.
P.S: If he say he'll call the cops on you tell him that he better be preper to go to juvinel jail. see how he likes that.
You and Dad have to get united. Take everything out of his room! Strip him of everything! Make him understand what you expect of him and what his role in your family is. Make him earn it back. Good luck!